thanks girl:) @babynathan2

Then him and everyone else should be happy that there's a granddaughter on the way just keep yalls head up and do what you think is best for brinley @brinleysmommy

that's the thing he just had 2 grandsons this is the first granddaughter 😨@babynathan2

There's no clue why he could have said it I know my dad was upset when we found out my daughter was a girl and didn't talk about her for a good week but then he came to me and told me he didn't care what she was as long as she's healthy..... Either he really wanted a grandson or he was being a dick about it... sorry for the language @brinleysmommy

my dad's response when I told him she was a girl was oh well I'll still love her? like tf? why would someone say that@babynathan2 I haven't talked to my mom and he hasn't talked to his dad @babynathan2

I would cut ties with all of them before they try to lie on you and Joseph and try to get the baby taken when its born... It's better to start now than wait.. Just over look them they know yall are happy and they don't want yall to be happy @brinleysmommy

that's why I'm worried:/ they treat us like shit his mom with our first baby accused me of lying and wanted to piss test me like who does that😢😢@babynathan2 I figured I wasn't wrong just needed other opinions

Honestly you the baby nor your S.O. needs that in yalls lives and you defiantly don't need the stress @brinleysmommy

that's what I want to do is cut all ties with my mother and maybe my dad:/@captjimenez

well your a beautiful strong young lady. forgiveness is hard but you can do it. sometimes no contact is best contact. your the boss of your life so you control your emotions and people in it.

I tried that, I tried telling.my mom and all she could do was call me a whore and my dad didnt care I'm more open with his drug head mom she excited the dad isn't @captjimenez

I'm so sorry about that but sometimes starting over with your family is the thing to do. they will either miss out or learn that life's what you make it and your not gonna let them ruin yours.

that's why i don't want them near her I feel like my parents have hurt me to bad, they don't care through the pregnancy either neither do his parents I've seen my poor Joseph cry over them@captjimenez

my niece kinda had that. her mom's a drugged out mess and my brother is to young to see his actions are wrong. my mom has full custody of my niece and she is 54. she's raised her children with all our mistakes and hers. babies are blessing that no matter what the past has your apart of the future with your child. let them see the past in themselves not you or your baby.

@brinleysmommy, anytime glad I could help.

I'll try it, I just don't want her attached to my mom, luckily.they live in texas so they won't be around much. it's Debra his mom I'm worried about Alabama will take your child re. behind drugs@cnewell23 thank you for that it's nice having an opinion from someone that understands

let them try that's what I did with both my parents my mom has been in and out of my life and my little brother's (jail and drugs) so when I had my first it weighed on me really bad to even her be in his life...so I sat down with her and told her this is how it's going to be point blank either you want to be in your grandchilds life or not it not my decision to make but if you think your going to bounce in and out like you did my brother and I than that's were I draw the line...needless to say I didn't have high hopes for her and she didn't prove me wrong. My dad on the other hand he got the same speech and to my suprise it actually struck a nerve with him and he stepped it up for his grandchild...just something you need to think about but whatever you decide my advise would be to do it while you child is still a baby... this way there is no attachment if things don't work out.

that works:) i may face time with thwm and let them meet her and be done with it:)@lillysmommy

@brinleysmommy, maybe you can let them see her once and that will make you feel OK or better or least you would be able able to say you at least saw him once. giving you options you don't have to take them just trying to help.

yeah:/ its hard I wish it was different but it's not thank you:)@ella1007

Just pray about it and it will all work out. I would say no if you feel that way but it's hard for me to say because my parents are awesome and his parents have both passed away

@brinleysmommy, I understand sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing bringing my daughter into my crazy family and then being a part of her life.

@ella1007, my heart says hell no:/ she will have her meemee and pawpaw (Joseph's bosses) they have been more like parents I just don't know I don't want to be wrong my mom doesn't care much and neither does my dad, its.his parents were worried about I domt.take drugs lightly@ella1007 @jerseybecca @lillysmommy thank yall

@brinleysmommy, you still have time to think about it and try to figure out what you want to do and what's best for you and your daughter

Then you know what your decision should be. Drugs is not something took be taken lightly. You protect your daughter the best way you know how.

I would say if you do keep it at a distance. I wouldn't want my child to be influenced by their behavior but it would be hard to keep her away from grandparents. You have to follow your heart and your instincts

that's the thing i don't think I'll let her ever decide that@lillysmommy I just don't wanna mess up:/

if you feel that way then I would say don't let them be around her until she's older and can make her own decision about that.

I just idk, luckily my "family" lives in texas and I live 3 states away@lillysmommy

I had the same feeling when I was pregnant with my family specially my mom so far she's been really good to my daughter my aunt on the other hand has pretty much been rude mean and hurtful and I don't let her see my daughter. but when my daughter it older and if she wants to see her she can make that own decision

that's the thing, I don't feel,guilty at all. @lillysmommy I'm worried my mom is the type to tell people every screwed up thing I've done. I don't need my daughter around that or drugs@jerseybecca :/

If you know they are going to be a bad or negative influence on you and your child's life then it is your choice not to involve them. Your child is innocent and should not have to deal with the bad choices of adults.

I would say yes let them try to be in her life but the one time they make a mistake or make her or you feel any type of way that you don't like don't let them at least you tried and you don't feel the guilt