Okay so my best friend had an abortion then I got pregnant and lost that baby then she got pregnant again but lost that baby now I am 6 months pregnant. I have been trying to be there for her and be a good friend but she just doesnt wanna be bothered with me. I know her pain but I didnt do anything wrong. I have been trying to text her and check on her but she never responds. She says shes happy for me but I cant help but to feel differently because the way she has been treating me. We have been friends for over 5 years and I just dont understand why she would do me like this. I try and try but I guess she just doesnt want anything to do with me.
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we all have different reactions ,i guess she feels she had it harsh since she aborted her baby and then this time around wanted it so bad and she couldn't do anything to keep her baby ,you know? i tried not feeling the way i did ,i did think to myself shes had it rough she lost a baby also she had to see me go through my first pregnancy wonderfully,while grieving her baby and now i get to see her while i daily grieve my child even though we both went through the same it still didnt feel like we did,we didnt handle it the same . we both had different reactions and i just think its a process that you both as friends need to talk about even though she might get upset or not admit it . at this point she cant think about anyone but herself and her baby just be a friend,when shes ready she will open up to you dont worry:)
I can understand that because I felt the same way when I lost my baby I guess I just feel like she shouldn't be jealous or upset with me because I have lost a baby also its not like I have had it easy @annanichole
my husbands cousin lost her baby when i was pregnant with my first . i went along to have my baby and she didnt then she got pregnant and so did i ,i ended up losing my baby and i can tell you i did not want to see her i was jealous,it felt unfair . i was being selfish till this day it comes to my mind and its hard to talk to her about her baby who still isnt born but very healthy . i felt like i needed to vent and told her how i felt towards her and towards anyone who was pregnant . she mentioned how she felt the same when she lost her baby. she just needs some space . ive comed around and i talk to her normally now even though im still very emotional we were due the same month and when march arrives my baby wont . its very painful and im sure ill be an emotional wreck when she brings the baby around me but i will also be very happy for her ,its just hard.
just tell her you understand if she's upset and that you are here if she needs to talk and then leave it at that. she'll come around.
she might be going through something only she can change...it took me four years to come with closure from my mis carriage.
thats true. I guess I will just back off but when I had my mc she stopped talking to me and when she did talk to me she was telling me about other ppl having babies. She wasnt there for me and I am just trying to be the friend she wasnt to me because when I lost my baby I didnt have nobody but I will give her her space. @kim5309
True , but your also two different people who feel different emotions...@djsmommy0516 a lot of women have lost babies but our time to heal is different
She could be jealous that you have made it this far, she could feel bad because she wasn't able to and keeping in touch with you keeps reminding her of her babies she lost. Either way tho, I hope you can salvage your friendship 😔
She could be jealous that you have made it this far, she could feel bad because she wasn't able to and keeping in touch with you keeps reminding her of her babies she lost. Either way tho, I hope you can salvage your friendship 😔
yea thats true but if anyone knows how she feels it would be me right I lost a baby also and I am not trying to rub it in I just want to be there for her @kim5309
give her the space. I'm sure she wants you to be happy, but it also reminds her that's something she doesn't have.
thank u @annanichole