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Wow kind of sucks how u can say you don't love them. I agree with what everyone is saying when u date someone with kids if u get to loving that person you have to love their kids too. Just think about your child and how u would want any guy if it wasn't the fathers baby to love your child like you do too.

thanks for all your opinions, you guys were wonderful ☺

Its simple, if you arent going to be accepting of his children then you shouldnt be with him. Thise are his children and being with him means that they will ALWAYS be around. What your saying sounds ridiculous, and if you try to make him choose between you and his children, well thats a battle you will lose cause he's kids will always first regardless if you two are dating, no matter how serious it is. Those kids need someone in their life who is gunna love them just as much as he does because their mother is piece of shit. Those kids have done nothing wrong to you for you to not love them or like them. Stop trying to play house and grow up and be a woman about things. You knew what you were getting into the minute you opened up to him sexually.

when you decide to date or be in a relationship with someone who has a child or children that's a package deal. There is no other way around it. I know I could not be with someone who didn't accept and care for my child as well as me. That's just my opinion!

exactly @blessedmamaof3 smh ; and furthermore, how you know prior that he had custody of his children but you still opened your legs to give him another one? did u think his current kids were gonna disappear just because you popped out one for him too? orrr...???? that makes no sense and is extremely selfish. thinking about this made me super angry bc those kids didn't ask for their mom to be some shit. and they DAMN sure don't need you around in their lives if you can't open up your heart to not only that man, but who he brought along with him - HIS CHILDREN. should have kept your legs closed or used condoms if you weren't open to his children to begin with. sorry not sorry. his kids ARE him. they aren't separate entities. and if he decides to leave you with that child u have now, God forbid, would you want someone to come along and say i love you but not the life you partially created?? i can deal with you but not you child. i want you but not your baby too?! that's triflin. but i wish u the best because he doesn't deserve that and neither do those children. and you don't deserve to sit there trying to FAKE play along either.

I agree completely with @mango44 and @wyatts_mommy_0106. Unless he kept the fact that he had kids away from you the entire time y'all have been together then you knew he had kids and still chose to be with him. Either stay and try or if you have no interest just leave. At the end of the day I would think people get together because they see a future with that person. Marriage a family etc and if you were to become a wife you get the packages too🙂

wow...a year and you don't care for them...that sucks..yeah you probably shouldn't proceed with that relationship that's not fair to him or the kids that you don't really care for them..then its going to be problems like..your child is going to get special treatment and stuff like that..that's very unfortunate to be in that situation but like the other women said you knew what you signed up for when you got with him.....I can't say whether I love my SO kids or not I've never been around them but now that we are more serious when I move back to Vegas and get an Apt they will be around me all the time..I hope you figure it out and make a decision that's best for everyone..and not just yourself..good luck

you knew he came with the kids and those kids will love your baby if you love him you need to make a effort with his kids since he has full custody or leave him cause you can't make him chose between you or them and they are kids and they didn't ask for the situation they are in not trying to be rude just honest I hope I don't offend you that is not my intention

That's his battle he needs to deal with. Whatever the outcome is, whether he has custody or not, there's nothing really you can do. Just support him. They're gonna be in your life as long as you are in his. Kids are a packaged deal. My so has another kid he wants custody of cuz the mom's a low life but it's not my place to be involved. We're not married so whether he gets his son or not doesn't affect my life dramatically. But I haven't met his son yet but I know he will be around because that's my SO's son. His child is just as important as ours. If you make him choose between you and his kids, you won't like his answer. Talk to him. It will work out.

@ the person you're replying to so they know you're responding to them

that's what you signed up for being with someone with children. he came with them. u can't pick what to take, & what to leave. u either are all in, or step off bc neither the kids nor him deserves to get any lack of love. sorry. just being honest.

I have tried which is how I know I don't love them or care for them because he has full custody of them so the whole year we have been together they have been around.

That's a tough one.

I think you have to try to make a bond with them... if you want to be with your SO... my BD has 3 other kids too.. and i never met them cause I've never really wanted to cause his bm is still in love with him and I just didn't want to involve myself.. so I don't really care fort the kids.. but because I want to be with him I try to ask about them often and include them in some decisions I want to make regarding our family... but it's weird!!