Sooo my mother in law and her son want to move in with us... Remember, I have a 2 year old and a baby on the way in a 3 bedroom house.. I need advice... I feel like a jerk for not wanting them to come move in, BUT I need my boyfriend to realize we have a baby on the way and money/space is gonna be tight as is it.. I really don't need to be taking care of 2 grown ass people either, or the stress, considering she's basically bed ridden and she cries and throws fits when she doesn't get her way.
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Thanks ladies, honestly I feel like I come second sometimes and it's nice to know my feelings are justified. @mamasnooki @babylylasmommy @tearbearm072016
please don't. you are not a jerk for feeling this way either.
And being pregnant you shouldn't have to be put through things that's going to stress you out.
@littlelentil, that's not being hateful or lazy. That's you just putting and making sure your kids and household is good first.
@littlelentil, ya no you're gonna be exhasted n you don't need extra stress you should speak up if your boyfriend loves you he will understand he should put you and the kids first..
His brother is 17, he'll be going to school here, they live in newyork and we live in Florida, the mother can't work or even get out of bed. It would just be a burden and more work for me but I really don't wanna come off to my boyfriend as a hateful lazy bitch. @mamasnooki I know they need help but I don't know if I'm capable of dealing with that right now.
It sounds like you're going to regret it the minute you let her move in. Will hubby be real mad if you say no? Can she go to another relatives house?
@littlelentil, you should just try and sit him down and let him know how you feel. He isn't the only one living there so he should take how you feel in to consideration. Is his brother working? If they move in they will need to help out some way.
@babylylasmommy, yeah that's exactly how I feel, but at the same time he makes it feel like it's not my place to decide and that she'll be "helpful" when in reality she barely gets out of bed, she doesn't clean, her house is always a mess, she's a thief and she gives her perscription pain pills to her kids. She's a sweet woman but I don't want her around my baby.
I haven't confronted him about it because it seems he's already made the decision without acknowledging my feelings about it, his previous wife was very controlling and ruined his relationship with his mother, he's only recently started patching things up with her.
it gets hard I know I'm taking care of my mom and brother the stress will build up which is not good on you or your baby hopefully he can understand you to are very important and u shouldn't have to take on more responsibilities considering it will start getting packed in the house as well good luck
Hell no! Your house your family, you should have a say!
tell him...don't put yourself in a situation that will only make you vunerable
Have you talked to you boyfriend and let him know how you feel?
The only person you come second to is your baby ! Remember that hun ! 💖