No problem :)

Thank you I appreciate the time you have taken to give me the insight and advice on this I'm happy you are able to stay home and enjoy your babies I hope he decides to open his eyes and get it together cause he is truly an amazing guy just needs a little push!!! @rochelleyayy

It took me awhile to realize that I was enabling him to be the way he was and I eventually got fed up with the bullshit. I was raised in a very old fashioned household. The man worked and the woman catered to the man and cared for the children. So naturally, that's what I was expecting which it wasn't at all. Maybe it would have been a little different if he was a good dad but I worked and he played video games all day and all night. Slept while he was supposed to be watching the baby. It was just a nightmare and I was miserable. I finally woke up one day and said enough was enough. I told him either he gets his shit together and provides like a real man or I would move on and find someone who would. He chose his friends and video games. I don't regret it one bit. I know where I spend my time and I know I've tried my best as a parent. I'm now living with my current boyfriend who has taken on being my sons father and we are expecting together. His first biological. He works 8-10 hours Monday thru Friday and is allowing me to stay home since I've been having a difficult pregnancy. He not once has put me down or made me feel bad for being a homemaker. That's what you need. I hope it all works out for you! Do what you feel is right by you and your baby. It's okay to be selfish when considering your feelings and yours only.

@rochelleyayy yes exactly and we haven't had the best relationship but its been alright and I have a lot if resentment towards him from stuff that has happened in our relationship that I'm not OK with but I try to move past it and enjoy the time we do spend together but its like any time I bring up me stressing about money or bills its an instant change of subject or he tells me you will figure it out you always do!!!! UGH

Sounds like he wants to be lazy and doesn't want you bursting his bubble. I've dealt with that in the past. It's like they feel guilty and you bringing it up is threatening