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Kimberly
mamaducky94
Kimberly
( Just to be clear I breastfed for 2 months I'm not here to be rude or mean to moms who breastfeed, but lately I have seen and experience this.)
There are some moms who really boast about their breast feeding don't get me wrong that's totally fine and awesome. The kind boasting I'm talking about is purposely putting a mother down. This isn't just putting them down but also making a mother feel like she's doing it wrong. This could lead some into feeling guilty; guilty for not being able to provide for ther child through their breast.
I personally have experienced this more than I could ask for. The first time was with my lactaion consultant she made it clear that breast feeding is a yes while formula is a no. Saying I should go as long as possible even if I'm literly not able to contuine. I personally wouldn't have gone and seen one if my doctor felt like I didn't need too. I didn't go to be made feeling like if I didn't contuine my child wasn't going to grow up normal and healthy.
The second time when I finally did stop breast feeding in my case I felt like was the best decison for my child and me. This decision was made because after I tried everything to get her to latch like L.C showed me it wouldn't happen. Also on top of her not latching I was having pretty painful letdowns, while on the side of just having problem after problem. This came with a price of waking up every 20 to 30 minutes, being in tons of pain, but also feeling bad for not being able to fully feed my child. I even tried pumping yet it still didnt help I was slowly not making enough, and she still wasn't gaining the weight. This made me make the choice to walk into a store with my beloved husband. Just to get the very first container of formula. She had tried the pre-made formula when she was in the hospital it didnt settle well with her. So I was a little hesitant with the podwer formula, but in the long run it worked she gained the weight she needed. She also became more happy, full, and a better napping baby. It was perfect but, going back to why I felt so judge was the cashier gave us the most dirtiest look while scanning the formula I have ever seen.
I mean why do that it's practicly judging someone for not breastfeeding. I know there have been probably worse cases than just a dirty look but, for me it meant something when I was in a place were I did care what other moms think. I learned that just because you getting dirty looks, whispers, or just right out face to face conversations about not breastfeeding. You should always remember they made formula for a reason. Just like breast milk it gives you everything that your child needs to be nourish, well fed, and healthy.
I don't see the difference since the baby is being fed and not neglected. There are plenty of other reason to judge a mom or anyone with a child besides what their being fed!!!! There are moms out there that aren't moms, they could careless about their children.
What I'm trying to say even though this is a great app with wonder mothers. This is. A conversation I felt that needed to get of my chest. It doesn't effect me now, it does effect new mothers. So please when come to posting or replying to something take a certaint aspect of where your going And comment respectfully.
( my baby is 6 months now)
15.01.2016
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mamaducky94
mamaducky94
yeah it was kind hard at first but now I'm like annd that's what your going to judge me on
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aaliyahadelyn
aaliyahadelyn
Exactly!! I kept getting put down for not breastfeeding but it was the best for me and for my baby!!
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arayasunshine
arayasunshine
Exactly as long your baby is fed and happy then what does it matter.
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mamaducky94
mamaducky94
@arayasunshine, Thank you I wanted to get some thing like this across to some people who don't quite understand how we feel when we can't breast feed instead looking down at us they should be well it's a normal thing to use formula and not act like it's against the law!!!
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arayasunshine
arayasunshine
I love this post it explains how I feel I wanted to breast feed but was unable when people talk about how breast is beat and formula is bad for your baby it makes me feel bad :(
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mamaducky94
mamaducky94
@kreeblim, totally fine I was ranting a little too!!! I feel where your coming from!!!!!!!! I did that a few times to transition her to formula with the frozen breast milk I had left!!!!!
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kreeblim
kreeblim
I'm pro happy baby and a full baby is a happy baby. None of us should be judged for how our little ones get fed. I don't breast feed, I do express pump only but I found a lot of judgement headed my way because I fed with a bottle instead of my breast. I was so confused She's getting the breast milk why was I being judged. I even had to have my gallbladder removed and we went through my entire reserve of frozen milk and started to add formula in and I got a ton of flack for it. Mother guilt is the worst, I was made to feel like I was a bad mom even tho I had just had a baby and then turned around and had to have major surgery. I wasn't even allowed to hold my daughter for 12 days. God forbid I add formula to my milk. Sorry end double rant. Haha Hear hear let's all just get along.
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mamaducky94
mamaducky94
@karnamarie, hell yeah!!!!
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karnamarie
karnamarie
I'm pro FED babies... Whether it's formula or breast as long as their bellies are full I don't care and neither should anyone else
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