Okay so I have a question for you ladies. Before my boyfriend and I were dating, we were bestfriends for a while. We always hung out but we never tried dating. Well I was dating this guy for a while, and got pregnant and he told me he wanted nothing to do with it, and told me to kill it. I would NEVER do such a thing. So he broke up with me and moved to Indy. Well when I told my friend, he said he would help me. Well we spent so much time together, that we fell in love. Yes I fell in love with my bestfriend. We are now dating and he is SOOO into the pregnancy! He is even going go adopt the baby. His friends all know, and his parents just found out. How do you explain to his family that yes it's not biologically his, but it is still? You know what I'm saying ? Lol. He is the one who was with me though all of this and he will be here for baby too. I just feel like a whore, I know I'm not... But still. Help !
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Thank you soo much. I was feeling down but he really is the father ! That makes me so happy. @cupcakesandbows
@newmommy_2016, that right there is a FATHER I'm happy you 2 fell in love and he was man enough to want to take on that responsibility
@brinleysmommy, @lovingmylilg @stjudemom @theosmommy thank you SOO much. It feels so good to hear all positive things.
hey! I didn't look anything like my dad ever lol but I'm definitely his sadly so you never know;) just run with it girl that's super awesome you found someone that loves you and your child @newmommy_2016
@newmommy_2016, everything's going to be fine. don't let what any of them say bother you. explain the situation if they don't get it don't bother with them. but they'll come around once the baby comes. everyone loves babies lol
I say try not to explain yourself ...you have a good man that sees your child as his own...I had this happen to me I ended up marrying him and now 7 years later we have 3 sons my 1st he took as his own when the real father completely vamped and I am pregnant now with my 4th.. u have a man that loves you as much as you love him being the biological father doesn't mean anything ..he will be that babies Dad and that means everything. .;)
Well, he is your boyfriend and you are both having a baby together, as one mom said before, it's not like you have to tell everybody he is not the biological father. But to the family, it is understandable that you have to tell. Anyways, I think you should just make it clear that you were pregnant when you both started dating and that your bf knew and he is the father of this child. Regardless what everybody has to say about it.
@mommy2be424, awe thank you so much. You guys are making me feel so much better ! And yes. I am very lucky to have found this man. ❤️
@lovingmylilg, thank you. So true. Like would they rather my child not have a father figure? This man is stepping up and helping like a real man. !
@brinleysmommy, he's telling everyone it's his already. Lol. I just don't want people to be like, that kid looks nothing like him! Lol @foreveryoung247 thanks so much. You made me tear up and I don't know why!! Lol
Your a lucky girl to have found a man that would do that for you, and love that child like its his own. There aren't many men out there like that. He's a keeper 😊 and don't feel that way about your self! Sometimes we choose the wrong men,it happens. Good luck to you and your little family (:
@newmommy_2016, people are to judgmental and to far in everyone else business. we will never understand why people say and do the things they do. but they do it. so all we can do is stay positive and surround our self with positive supportive people
Try not to let the opinions of others get to you. If it feels right to you than that's what matters and everything happens for a reason and he could be the best persons to fill those shoes. Just remember you don't have to explain yourself to ppl it's your life. It'll all work out. Try not to stress yourself out 😉
girl, if he loves you and that baby who cares what anyone else thinks. once the adoption takes place I wouldnt even tell anyone yalls little one isn't his <3 bc honestly if he loves it like it's his it's his so happy for you
@lovingmylilg, thank you ! I just don't understand what the big deal is ya know ? We are adults!
Thank you ! There are many people who don't have the father in the life of their baby. I was just lucky enough to have this man step up and take the place. @bhowes
their definitely going to have something to say regardless !!!
just pray to god that he doesn't let them get to much in his head and make him change his mind because that's definitely what their going to try to do !
Well its gonna be tough and many wont understand but if you guys believe in each other and stay strongyou can get through anything and others will accept your happiness especially if it's hard to deny.
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