I don't want to get married. I feel like I was pressured to get engaged to my fiancé by friends, family, and him. I…

don't do it if you're not ready, I got pregnant and was practically forced to get married by family cuz of Christian beliefs and he turned out to be everything I didn't want in a man. now I regret it, the only good thing I got was 2 beautiful children

yeah .. take ur time =) i love seeing people is love.. makes me all warm inside =) im actually nervous im getting married in less than two m still no dress i think im starting to show ..ill b 15 weeks sat and 23 weeks walking down the aisle.. =(

@no ogersbugsanddirt, just take your time this time and see where it goes. You can be engaged for a long time without setting a date. Just let God take the wheel with your relationship and he will guide you. If it's meant to be then it's meant to be

But when I tell myself I just feel rushed the bigger part of me is saying, no, you're just not being honest with yourself.

@lilfree16, Maybe I just feel rushed.

@sparnell sounds like me at that age exactly. My relationship was 5 years. 2.5 not married, 2.5 married. and it was hell.

I feel like maybe I'm just feeling rushed.

@boogersbugsanddirt, I know the feeling I was young and dumb and got married at 19 had my son at 20 and was divorced by 22. My ex is a p.o.s and I thought I would never get married again. My ex made me bitter in life, he started snorting pain meds and became an alcoholic so I left. My son was 2 when my divorce was final. My husband now, is amazing! I never thought I could love again or be treated like a queen or have another baby. But I let God take over and put my trust in him with this relationship. I am so happy I took that leap with my husband. He's an amazing father figure to my 7 year old and he will be great with our newborn. My sons real dad is a poor excuse for a father.

but marriage isnt just a piece of paper.. its a commitment between two people.. the ultimate commitment.. if you feel like you arent ready then dont lol... marriage does have its benefits... just give it more time.. =)

@lilfree16, Maybe he does but I've told him that and here we stand!

I told him my stance from day one and then we got pregnant and then the pressure set in from everyone around us.. This feels so familiar to me, while my feelings for him are very genuine and like nothing I have ever felt before, I don't feel like I want to be married again. I know that I will spend the rest of my life with this man but I just don't want to feel like I have to justify it with a piece of paper... @ez

then he needs to move on and be with someone who wants to get married... marriage isnt only a piece of paper.. well to me.. i couldnt be living like married folks and be someones gf for the rest of my life. but different strokes for different folks

@ez, I learned that lesson the hard way. My first marriage was fucking awful because we thought it would fix everything. I was young and dumb and didn't listen to my mom. Married an older man, had babies with him. Marriage is so much more than a piece of paper and I wish I truly knew that.

And because of my first marriage, I don't want to do it again. I've had this talk with my fiancé before and after the engagement and he's not controlling at all but his view is, why did we come this far not to be married? He is a very traditional man from a very traditional family. We wouldn't have even had kids until after we were married, but any form of birth control is never 100%! haha.

Me neither!!! Marriage is just a piece of paper. Trust, real love, communication is all the same in a relationship, marriage is only by law. I refuse to ever get married and my boyfriend gets sad about it also lol

I'm not going to but he's still not comprehending that this is something I don't want. @sarahemccormick

so....don't do it.