I have to rant for a second..... Me and my hubby have been together a year and I'm 38w 3d, he got a…
I have to rant for a second..... Me and my hubby have been together a year and I'm 38w 3d, he got a job in another state that's only about 2 hours away and is living there with his mom until he can get enough money for a place then me and baby are moving up, he will come for her birth and won't come back until I move up there in about 5 months but last week a girl messaged me on Facebook saying my hubby had been messaging her sister asking for pics and calling her beautiful etc. but she had deleted most of the messages and that's all she seen so I asked him about it and he said they only talked about trucks and he didn't tell me and deleted them because he knows i get jealous.... I showed him what she said to me and he said she was lying.... I really really want to trust him and not believe her but I'm getting two completely different stories and all he says is just drop it, i told you the truth now let it be.... I can't. I'm stressing so much with him bein up there and I can't even talk to him about how I feel and he already knows I have trust issues.... 😫😢 what do I do....
Rachel·
first of all, why the fuck is he okay with being so far away from you being that you're about to pop in the next 2 1/2 weeks.... second of all, if your gut tells you he's lying trust it.
Camie·
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@rachellynn3316, it's because he's making money up there when he didn't have a job here but I am a jealous girlfriend and have been cheated on before but not by him and I want to believe he wouldn't but I'm so dumbfounded that he would even do it 😞 I dunno what to believe...
Rachel·
I fully understand, I went through something similar. But making money or not I wouldn't leave my 9 month pregnant woman that far away from me. wouldn't fly with me. I'm the jealous cling on girlfriend so I feel you. just don't believe one side, keep digging.
Alyssa·
Мама сына (5 лет)
Have you been married for a year or only been together for a year?
Camie·
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Haha oh I am I told her I needed like screenshots or for the girl to talk to me or something hahah @rachellynn3316
Tia Williams·
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trust your gut for one thing. if it doesn't feel right chances are it's not right. this girl has no reason to lie to you. but the fact the msgs are deleted would be a red flag for me. but everything he's saying would be a red flag as well.
Camie·
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Only dating for a year @florafedora and yea I get what you mean @icedtia I just don't want to believe he would be like that
Tia Williams·
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@brookiemarie, I understand. you never want to believe that about someone you put your trust in. and someone you love. just protect your heart. you don't deserve to get hurt.
Alyssa·
Мама сына (5 лет)
So you aren't married. Girl, don't try and make it work with some guy who cheats on you especially if you aren't married to him.
🎀Jacqui🎀·
It seems sketchy to me so if the other girl didn't message you and he deleted them then basically you never would've found out so what else is he doing that he's just deleting ? And for the other girl to message you why would she do it if they were innocent messages ? And who meets a girl and just talks about trucks? It's not making sense to me to be that simple idk I wouldn't be cool with it go with your gut I'm not trying to make you feel worse but as girls most of the time were able to put two and two together and if it doesn't seem right well we can usually tell he seemed to try to brush that off and get off the subject but you should definitely push the issue and find out more you don't need this stress especially this far in your pregnancy but you also don't need to be treated in a bad way and lied to either good luck girl hopefully it's nothing !
Sharon Wesselman·
trust your gut. it is normally right.
Brittany Overn·
Мама сына-младенца
sad to say... most situations like this usually are correct 😢 he's most likely fucking around hun.
Kenna Fahrenwald·
Мама сына (6 лет)
@brookiemarie, I would be asking why he was messing her in the first place and how they met. For me personally hiding things is the best way to piss me off. I agree with the ladies, something isn't right there. I just went through a breakup with a very similar situation and he didn't admit it till I told him there was no chance I'd ever be with him again. If you have to delete messages there's something wrong.
Camie·
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Well they met at a New Year's Eve party that I let him go to with his friends while I went with the girlfriends of his friends cuz I wouldn't be drinking and didn't want to be around a bunch of drunks and I told him not to get to drunk cuz I didn't want to have to go get him and drive him home but he did and she is telling me they were messaging that night but he is sayin it was Saturday they were talking.... The girl is kind of a drama starter so that's why I'm not sure to believe her or not.... @mom-09-16
Kenna Fahrenwald·
Мама сына (6 лет)
I'd definitely ask her to show me the messages then. But even so, he deleted the messages. I'd be letting him know that's not okay and there needs to be honesty, respect, and trust. You can't hide something because your significant other will be mad about it. To me that's lying....maybe get them together, the truth seems to come out in person. @brookiemarie
Kenna Fahrenwald·
Мама сына (6 лет)
Ooh and drama girls usually aren't the "lets talk about trucks" type of girls....
Camie·
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It wasn't the girl who told me it was her sister but yea I get what you mean and they won't get together he deleted her and everything and as far as I know he doesn't have her number but my trust with him is all but gone... And I don't know how to put it in words how he really hurt me and it's gunna take a lot for me to even let him go with his friends again... I don't want to be that girlfriend at all but I feel like I don't have a choice.. @mom-09-16
Kenna Fahrenwald·
Мама сына (6 лет)
I know how you feel. He got himself into this predicament though. It's his fault you can't trust him and now it's up to him to fix it. You don't really have a choice. You can't ignore your feelings because of his screw up. You do what you need to do!! Not only for you but for your baby too. You want a good, healthy relationship so your baby is born into a peaceful, trusting environment :) @brookiemarie