So I have a little issue I guess you can say, our son is almost 7, so when the baby comes, he will just have turned 7. He's the only child and all his cousins are at least 4 years younger than him. We don't live close to family (4 hours is the closet which is my parents) my son does have a half brother who is one but he only sees his dad 3 times a year max. Cameron is involved with this pregnancy and seems excited but how do I deal with the feeling of him feeling left out or how when we go baby shopping it's all about The baby? I feel so bad sometimes that it makes me sick. Cameron has never expressed that it bothers him. He does spring sports and is very involved with after school programs like math club. I just don't want him to feel forgotten when his brother gets here, because that is what his real dad did. Advice please
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@sealion, my brother is 4 year so older than me and my sister is 6 years younger but I don't really remember much. Now my little sister is spoiled and is almost 22. I have a half brother who is 4 but I never see him, he is my real dads. I guess it will be a trial and error.
I have an 8 year old sister and a sister about to turn 10. My mom had another baby a year ago. So I have a 1 year old brother. Besides the grouchy tendencies when they are asked to watch him for a bit, the 9 year old loves my brother. She doesn't seem to see him as getting more attention even though he does because you have to give babies more attention because they get into things. But my 8 year old sister seems to get jealous. I've noticed she gets very angry easily so I think she just has anger issues. But two kids close in age seem to have a different view of their brother. I don't think you have all the power over it I think he just has to take to baby well. But I do not personally know because I'm pregnant with my first. But that's just watching my siblings. So I would say just do your best to involve him and let him take to him they way he needs to. My younger sister who is more jealous was supposed to be the last kid. So she was always told she was "baby" that is even her nickname. So that was stolen away from her when he was born which is probably why she doesn't take to him as well.
We shall see if he changes once Parker gets here! He says he's ready to go hunting with him and help him get his first deer.
his might be keeping away from the baby thinking he will play too rough with him or something. I believe in you mama 😄 you can do it
@arijane316, see he picks out stuff at the stores and stuff for the baby. He already said he is not helping with diapers because they stink! Haha. I don't know what his dad has done to him while he's there so I'm trying to make Cameron see that baby brothers are awesome. At least we can have baby bonding time while he's at school and math club so that way when he gets home, we can focus more on him. What else doesn't help the situation is my husband works 24 on and 48 hrs off and I work 12 hour night shifts.
get him to help with doing little things for baby, like when you need to do a diaper chage, have him get the new diaper out for you, or have him pick out an outfit for baby to wear. the more involved he his the better he might feel
My stepdaughter is 4 so I have the same fear but for now when we do stuff for the baby or she sees new baby stuff, we just remind her that he's coming into the world with nothing and that we're just getting ready for him. I imagine when we take them shopping that we'd let her pick out a single item for herself too but gotta see when that happens.
Just try balancing the time between them. I'm sure your son will understand that babies take up your time but as long as you include him, he shouldn't feel left out. Good luck!!