Okay ladies if I can get your advice that would be great. So my fiancé and I had our daughter about 7 weeks ago. She is feeding well, sleeping all the time and I am with her 24/7. My fiancé works throughout the day and then comes home. He comes home all he wants to do is be on his phone or lay down and watch tv. I know that when he gets home from work he is tired and wants to just relax but I find myself taking care of her all the time, when she's fussy during the night I am the one who gets up with her because he is such a heavy sleeper. I have talked to him countless times letting him know that I would like some more help due to the fact that I am tired too from constantly getting up and he says he will get up more but I can't seem to get him to do that. What should I do ?
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shads a marine and the only times hes really bad is on pt days that are once or twice a week and it sucks :/ i feel like he doesnt really like being around jd or that he doesnt want to be here unless hes drinking...
@_isabellasmommy, i feel the same way non of my friends have babies so they have no clue though they absolutely adore my son and do what they can when around they dont know how the baby is 24/7 and only get the good side lol @mommabear96 my boyfriend is a heavy sleeper too and works on unloading rigs(driving a loader in a barge or pulling a lever at work lol) and sometimes i got to make him take the baby but others (when i want time with the baby) he wants him too and he does what he can to help though. but he gets so super irritable and we fight at night sometimes because well we both are cranky and cant stand the sight of each other sometimes. and id make him spend more than an hour with the baby but thats just me
my husband said since hes a very heavy sleeper that if i need some rest and jd cries than to do everything in my power to wake him up. my husband does nothing but sit on his butt while at work, and he barely spends an hour with our son and thats only if i tell him to
Thank you ladies 💕 I feel like I can't talk to anyone of my friends because they don't have kids and have no idea what I'm talking about
Just pass the baby lol. My boyfriend got the clue when mommy has had enough it's daddy duty time even for 5 minutes, sometimes we just need to breathe, and besides the baby needs to feel his warmth and get used to him being around. ☺
he falls back asleep but thats why i wake him back up. sometimes i cannot fall back asleep til ik the baby is okay and since his daddy has a tendency to pass out easily i sometimes stay up. but my SO knows that ive got to have some rest too. this isnt his first baby though and the mother of his first child was the same way when they were still together. he knows we get bitchy without sleep and after dealing with the baby its twice as bad so plus i would cut him off in a heartbeat if i didnt get help and he doesnt want that lol
I do sometimes just tell him that I need to get stuff done too but it doesn't seem to get it. I will be in the middle of getting ready or showering and the she is crying and he's just like she's fine or whatever and then I end up having to get her. I just don't know how much longer I am going to deal with him just acting like its whatever. I try and get him up during the night and he just falls back to sleep like its no big deal. It's so frustrating
i ,personally, gave him the baby when he came in and told him hey im fixing to shower, cook, take a nap, etc. this is what you need to do blah blah blah. when im done ill get the baby. and then go do whatever i wanted or needed to do . and at night id make him get up at least the first time the baby woke up. he started doing it himself and now we take turns getting up with our son or whatever when he gets home. i understand he works and provides for us. i get that he is tired from work and wants to relax but i didnt make the baby myself and i wont take care of him by myself as long as his daddy is around we will share responsibility
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