Being the second baby's mother of my boyfriend feels so shitty because I don't get to experience what it would be like…

Yeah that thought has been in my head too I just been trying to make things work because I grew up without a dad and I just don't want my daughter going through the same thing as me. @christinaannbrown1996

if he dosent help maybe hes not the one for u and your baby comes before him

Not to be consumed by the pregnancy? What does that even mean?! I hate that men can be so arrogant and self centered!! Thanks for the words of encouragement, I needed that but you too, keep your head up ☺️ Everything will be okay with or without him ❤️ @sheasmom

Yeah same here, but we have to just focus on our babies and our men don't bring us down anymore. I wish the best for you ❤️ @zensnow

Oh hell no! That's out of line calling you "fat".. Then he turns around and says the ultrasounds are fake?! He needs his ass kicked, I'm so sorry you going through that.. I hope things get better for you I really do. @cholaloca

I'm baby momma #4 and this will be his 5th.. I definitely know how you feel! This is my 2nd after just getting a divorce last year from my sons father and we tried for 3 years to give my son a sibling! Then I've been with my bf 10 months and this happened.. He's happy but told me not to be consumed by the pregnancy? Just wish it was the same on both sides! You totally got this girl, just remember it's all for your baby😊

Smh, yeah I know how you feel. He had told me that "this isn't his first rodeo" or when I ask him to do something for me he won't do it.. I'm definitely alone.. And thank you I'm trying to, I have to make sure I'm strong for my baby girl. But you too I hope things get better for you. @paige1212

I'm right there with you. I can't even get him to tall names and every time I try to plan things it how it all happened with his first

@_miraclemay, yea sometimes but i find ways to get over it you know? and it does get hard being the only one that cares about it. he just says that im getting fat. and im not fat, im pregnant. ive got ultrasounds to prove it. he says there faked.

we were already broken up😵It gets lonely at times, but it's gotten better😊

I'm sorry to hear that 😨 I'm in the same boat too. did he just walk out on you or were you guys already broken up? @its__cyn

I am baby momma #3. my husband has had horrible experiences with children this far. I was so worried that he wouldn't find this baby special. something that has been very helpful for both of us was to vocalize what I need from him and keep him super involved with this pregnancy. I send him my little weekly app notifications, he comes to every appointment, he's learning how to coach me while I'm in labor etc. I make it a point to ask him how he's feeling, what he's excited for, what he's worried about. I try to praise him for his experience and how I'm so lucky to have somebody who knows what they're doing with a baby. He says that he's never felt so excited for a baby to be born and that this has made him love me even more because I make him feel like he's important and that he matters. Sometimes people need help caring. especially if they've been burned by women having their babies. maybe the 'not caring' is a defense mechanism?

Same here, it's like I'm the one that has to come up with her name, save and etc.. It's just not fair.. Do you deal with drama with his other kids mom? Because I do and that pisses me off too.. @cholaloca

I'm going through the exact same thing. it's like me and my child aren't as important because he's already been through it.. definitely hurts your feelings. :( hang in there girl.

I am basically going through this pregnancy by myself, and it sucks. It's really scary😢

@_miraclemay, exactly. this is my first child with my bf and he has kids already. doesnt seem like he cares about this one too much. feel like im the only one that cares about it.

😞 and this is suppose to be a happy moment. @cholaloca

i feel the same way