so i want my SO and my mom in the room during labor, but my SO says because i get to have my mom, he should have his in there. ive told him no a million times (no secret his mom and i hatteeee each other) but i feel like hes going to try to have her there anyway and ill get so mad ill probably kick him out of the room too....any advice?
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explain to him, how would u like it if you were having prostate done. would u feel comfterble with my ma seeing all your man parts
I would give the nurses her picture and say do not let her in Lol. And if he flip I would ask him to excuse his self too simple as that. I'm married and my husbands mother has never been in the room for none of our babies. It's just something you should be firm about and Only think about yourself. Simply because it's your body and private parts that will be shown and out during this time. And if he can't understand that then idk..... This just might be that one test that will push your relationship to its limits. But I would stick to my guns otherwise be ready to have her in there.
I actually am not going to have any visitors while I'm at the hospital. Just hubby and I. People can wait until we home to visit the baby.
So do what your think is best for you and your family.
@hopelovecandy, im going to try to stay calm when she visits the baby....her being in the room isn't even an option. she's an evil women and i don't need her to ruin my precious moments of meeting my first baby
This a bit of a complicated situation because she is the grandmother BUT you are the one going into labor it's super important for you to be comfortable mentally and physically. She can always come in after you deliver the baby. I was told by nurses to choose people in your room that you feel comfortable going to the bathroom in front of.....because during delivery you will be exposed. It's your body....you choose who you want there.
I was set on it just being my mom and hubby in there too. But when the time came down to it, i was only in labor for 3 hours and everything happened sooo quickly. She ended up being in there anyway, but now that i look back on it im glad she was able to be in the room for her first grandchild. this time i think i only want hubby in there, but we will see how it turns out
@killxj0y, our families HATEEEE each other they were friends for 5 years an a flip switched i guess now they are all banned from each others properties and crap
@b yeah my mom has been so excited and helpful this whole time and his mom has just said how unhappy she is for me to be having his baby
I'm so sorry to hear that, why does she hate you so much?! She better get over it. Y'all in for 18 to life together or not 😂
Just let him know that it is a bonding experience for your mother and you
I havent been able to have my mom during both of my pregnancies because she lived so far away in another state but now she lives in the same state and only like 20 minutes away. I had my mother in law and bf at the time during my first delivery but the second time around i only had my husband. I personally feel like its something i want to share with my husband during that time. I understand too your husband wanting his mom there, maybe just let him have that he just wants support from his mother too
haha @killxj0y my MIL always gets us to fight cause she wants him to leave me, i don't even think she wants to be there, i think she just wants us to fight about it
At the end of the day, when you give birth to your baby it's all about YOU & making sure your baby comes out safely. You can always sneak behind hubby's back & tell the doctor to say that there's only 2 ppl allowed in the room, lol. I know you might not want to go that way but hey - desperate times call for desperate measures lol.
Exactly. Everyone is going to see the baby, she wouldn't be there during the birth to have dibs on seeing the baby first 🙄 it's about supporting you bc she knows what you're going thru! It's awesome you have that bond with your mom. Honestly I'm sure even your MIL would understand where you're coming from (even tho if you two don't like each other she won't admit it lol)
She should be able to see her grandkid obviously but this is a little different. It's not the same as having your own mom there. I wouldn't feel comfortable with my mother in law seeing that at all.
i went through the same thing. i just realized whatever, im gonna be in so much pain, ill just want the baby out. I still dont want her to be in there, but oh well. Im setting ground rules, and if i hear one bad thing come out of her mouth, she will be excused!
exactly how i.feel!! @killxj0y he said if my mom gets to see her grandkid then so should his mom...but my mom is there for my support when my body tears open ya douche....
No offense but how the hell is having your mom in there & his mom in there the same thing? It's not. At all. You should try to explain that to him, cus they're two totally different things.
You're the one that's gonna be naked and going through all of that. It's really your choice and I wouldn't feel comfortable either. I only had my own mom and aunt with me none of my husbands family.
if you tell the nurses you don't want her in there they won't let her be there. it's what the mother wants
@marissacc22, good point though