Any help, ladies? I've been really down for the last week because I don't feel attractive. I have come to the conclusion that I feel this way because my husband doesn't help me feel attractive. My husband doesn't want to have sex with me and when he says he does he says he's just too tired. He doesn't ever tell me I'm pretty, I'm beautiful, nothing. He doesn't even tell me that I look like shit. The ONLY time I get told I look pretty is if I askbor if I bring up the fact that he never says it and then he says "I tell you that you're beautiful all the time!" but he doesn't. He didn't even tell me I look decent when we got married in September. He knows I'm upset tonight, but he thinks I'm just being over emotional and that I'm fine, but I'm not. I'm tired of feeling like I don't matter, like I'm his last priority, and like I'm nothing. I'm tired of crying every night and I'm tired of feeling this way. But most importantly, tired of being tired of it all. I'm at my wits end with feeling this way and I just don't know what to do anymore. Help me, mommies, I'm stuck.
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I'm just tired of feeling this way. @tmo
I agree. I can't even look at myself in the mirror without wanting to break down and cry. My husband never says any of those things to me and what's worse is he was over weight before his new job and I always complimented him to make him feel better about himself but he can't do the same. He use to always want to have sex and now it's like a chore to him. I even bought some lingerie for him and he asked me why, it made me feel like complete shit.
Thank you, at least someone tells me. @maxx
@toreesuesmommy, I think not having cute clothes was what mainly started my insecurity. I spent like $80 bucks on a new outfit. I now only own one cute outfit that fits. I know money can be hard but I hope things get better for you :) you are beautiful whether he tells you or not
@maxx, I don't wear makeup, my husband doesn't like when I do. I don't have any nice clothes that fit me either.
I felt like this a while. Sometimes it really could just be you over reacting cause I feel like that was my case. I just took a day and put some extra effort into my appearance even though we had no plans. I mean with a new baby I don't do much for my appearance anymore. I'm usually in sweats with no makeup but every once in a while I make some time to do my makeup even if I'm still in pajamas with a messy ponytail. I'll dress cute and do my hair if I have the time but the makeup is usually enough to catch his attention since I usually don't wear any.
@toreesuesmommy, me same through out my child hood i been bullied cause of my looks but i know its something you got to deal with but u r a pretty girl u should not look for other ppls say so in how u feel
I don't know why, but people's opinions of me have always mattered to me. I need to feel accepted and loved because I never felt that growing up.
i say weather he your husband out not dont go looking for his opinion on how you look you are beautiful and you dont need no one to tell you...you should not feel like u r not n u should not b down about it tell yourself your pretty smile n pick your head up dont be down over that you are the only one that can make you happy @toreesuesmommy
@toreesuesmommy, I know the feeling hun. you ever need anyone to talk to I'm here. I definitely know what it's like. I feel like it's depression but I'm not sad about EVERYTHING just certain things.