tell the hospital to put him on the no visitation list. so even if he finds the right hospital, he won't be allowed in! that's what I did with mine.

Sorry if I missed a post explaining already but you don't want to give him a chance to be involved?

yeah that's what I'm doing as well, ima make it painfully expensive and he doesn't make much, but here in Tennessee they use both our incomes to decide how much he pays, I know ppl who pay 300 a child with no job, so that'd be 600 for him, insurance for the boys, and he is already behind cuz they start from the day they're born. But I have documentation of his anger problems n violence, and many other things so there is no way in hell he would get unsupervised! I wouldn't allow it! He is getting his information from someone in NY and their laws are way different from ours. even if he buys just a box of diapers in NY he has rights to see them, BUT here in TN nothing he has bought counts and just cuz he buys stuff (which is rare) doesn't mean I have to let him see them.

I would NEVER allow unsupervised visitation with my daughter. first reason beimg that she will be 100% breast fed. so I always will be there. And 2 he will have to take me to court. and pay for all the paperwork and dna tests. he has no job or money so he wont. and he doesnt want to be on child support so he wont do a dna test at all. @twinmamma2015

yeah he can't do that, I'm having similar problems with the boys dad. when they were 3 months he decided he wants to be part of their lives and threatens me about if he goes to court he'll get unsupervised, which I have documentation that won't ever allow that and he is causing all sorts of problems, but here in Tennessee he has no rights, no say in their care, I don't have to let him see them unless a judges orders me to and he has to take me to court for that. So I wouldn't worry about it at all

thank you @shelbymlyn

I already made a list of who's allowed to see me for visitation @alauraandabdielsmom

@elimarysmommy12, I am thinking of you through these hard times and I am praying for you and your miracle. I know no matter what you can and will protect your baby especially if the father isn't good for her !! much love 😘💟

@elimarysmommy12, tell your hospital he isn't allowed there. you can do that! I had to do that with my dad (crazy story) but if he showed up and made a scene he would be removed from the hospital

he hasnt been present my entire pregnancy. The whole time he swore that baby wasnt his bc he thought I was cheating on him. When he did the math he found out that I concieved around our anniversary so he knew it was his. He lost his job and has been asking for money. He hasnt been to a single appointment or even asked to see an ultrasound. Im not putting his name on the birth certificate and she will have my last name @alauraandabdielsmom @candice_leann @edomke

Get a restraining order if you want. But I wouldn't let him there, or on the birth certificate. It will definitely slow down any visitation or anything like that because he will have to go through the court system.

Unless you're doing some serious illegal activities he won't get your baby momma, you have all the rights! my husband and I weren't married at the time Alaura was born and even with him in the room and us being engaged he had no rights until he got legitimized the day after

he doesn't need to be an ass abt it

Tell him good luck with that