Ok so I dont know what to do. I have a problem and I don't know how to solve it. About 2 1/2 years ago I had my son Jr. On June 24th 2013 in a c section, Then he had passed away the next day June 25th, 2013. I just had my daughter about a week and a day ago. She was also a c section and it's like I have constant flash backs of my son in my thoughts, my dreams. And even tho I love my daughter with all my heart I constantly think of my baby boy. And when I see my daughter all I do is cry and I don't want her to see me like that. She so innocent not knowing anything. What do I do? I want this pain to go away. I want to be at ease. I mean I'm happy with my daughter but the feelings about my son just randomly pop up when I'm with my daughter. Someone help me..... Signed a confused lost mom 😔😢
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thank you and I'm really glad I could help! hugs do close the deal! you hug your newborn babygirl and I'll hug my newborn babygirl too lol I love her hugs they make me feel good. even when her face expression is clearly say "eww mom your breath still stinks" she still accepts me anyway lol😂😂😍
Ugh! You don't know how much your words mean to me right now 😢😢 wish I knew u in person so I can hug you for your kind words. You are a gift. @melissarose
I hope you can understand that you are ALLOWED to cry you should cry let it out. when you cry hug your baby girl! do skin to skin bond with her, she is your best friend. you're not being weak by crying to your baby. she doesn't mind, she's soft and sweet and her presence has the power to relieve some of the stress and pain you're feeling cry hun don't allow yourself to become depressed. as she gets older she will understand why you hurt and she will be there for you. and you being her mom and recognizing it hurts but still pushing through for her will help her see how strong you are and build an understanding for you accepting your loss and realizing you did it and made it as you look into your baby girls eyes. cry accept enjoy appreciate grow love and cry again when you need too
Thank you it means a lot for your advice. It is very hard I try and not to cry in front of my little one. For anyone for that matter. I just feel so lost and I need a way out.. @melissarose
hi, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how that feels but I lost my mom and went through the horrible dreams and beautiful but painful flashbacks, the best advice I can give you is allow your self to be the human, the woman that you are. I think it's 10000 percent normal that you're experiencing the things you are. understanding you just lost a baby whether it was 2 or 10 years ago the thought will linger. I say accept the fact that it does hurt and allow all of your heart and even the tears, happiness and pain to flow, don't hold an ounce in it won't make you stronger it will hurt. allow yourself to continue loving and enjoying your newborn and (not sure If you're religious) but thank whoever or where your faith is for blessing you with a baby girl! you're a mommy and your son will always Remember you just as you do him! be a great mommy don't br afraid to cry and reach out there's always someone watching or listening good luck welcome and enjoy every minute with your babygirl!
Lml @melissarose