Well just received some not so great news. So Im having my Daughter tomorrow and people have known this for about 2 weeks but knew she was due on Christmas too. I already know my family cant make it due to crappy weather and living either far away or states away, so that leaves my husbands family that lives about 5 minutes away. Turns out, the older brother has decided to be married, same day. Hasnt even proposed or been engaged to the girl. They have been dating for 4 months and she is that fair along in her pregnancy too because she got pregnant the first time they had sex. He bought the marriage license 2 days ago and so my husband confronts him on how it isnt his day and asked if he was even going to make it to the hospital for our daughter. He responded with how he didnt even know he was going to be getting married... lies lies and more lies. So whos going to be there for my daughters birth... nobody.. why? kuz they will all be at the wedding and drunk, of course. I should have known, family doesnt like me and now they are doing this on My Daughters day.. This isnt going to be easily forgiven. Especially last year on my wedding, we had to delay it a couple of hrs so my husband could go pick up his mother that "forgot" because she got too drunk the night before and slept in. I dont think any of this is accidental... It sounds like every time its an important day, that has been planned for months, for my family.. we get over ruled by someone else making it about them or making it their day. I feel Hurt and I feel cheated. This isnt fair. This is my daughters day, her birthday, and nobody will be there for her kuz its going to be my husbands brothers anniversary and everyone is going to want to be a part of that, why??? Alcohol... and plenty of it. Dont I have every right to be upset?
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you do, but listen. you and your husband created this miracle. so as long as he is there with you, what else matters. let them go get drunk. let them decide what's important to them. who are you or your husband to determine that on their behalf. just just keep that in mind when they decide they want to come around. fuck their feelings towards you, you're family now. & if they can't respect that, that's fine too. your main goal should be to protect baby from toxic people like that. so tell them make sure their asses stay busy and don't try to crawl back around at a later date. people love to be a part of some shit from a distance, and you give them the option to let you down by inviting them around for them to prove they don't want to be there. so stop. don't get angry. and when they realize u guys aren't pressed to have them around, they'll want to come around because they're no longer invited. & if not, SO WHAT. you have a child to worry about and protect. who wants to have people like that around their greatest creation? sorry for the rant, that really just made me angry.
You do have every right to be angry. If I were you I would talk to your hubby and discuss moving closer to your family since his family basically doesn't seem to care.
You do but honestly good for you. Better for you to only be there with hubby. It will be more of an intimate experience for you 2. And honestly after having a baby you don't feel like seeing anybody except your baby and hubby. Good luck mama and make the best out of it. I promise when you see your daughter they don't mind or matter at all.
I dont mind that others wont be there kuz I wasnt really wanting it anyways. Its for the sake of my husband. He wanted the whole experience of me having the baby and being able to walk out after to the waiting room and be congratulated and feel proud for once kuz people came for this special day. But now I fear he is going to be disappointed and I hate seeing that look on his face. I already saw it at our wedding, I dont want to see it again :(