this might be a controversial topic, please don't comment if you have nothing constructive to say.
we are having a boy, & decided against circumcising.
well now my mom won't talk or acknowledge me.. I'm not changing my stance on it but with Christmas coming up, what do I even do?
she was a single mom & raised my sister & I on her own. so she's the only family I have.
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she said at gym time when he has to shower@lposchx
@emmajeremy2627, how would the kids at school know about his penis? haha like what. - my husband isn't either, & he was the first to bring it up after we found out gender. - she told me the same thing, that I have time to change my mind. this was something I decided on before we got pregnant with our rainbow. I don't just "change my mind"
were not circumcising either my hubby isnt but have also done my research and just cant bring myself to cut my son for no reason at all. my mom and i still talk but when it comss up she says how much he'll be teased at school no girl will want him , no wants a "jacket" on the penis
then goes on to say it stops so many things that are medical such as lowers risk of uti and what not. but I still won't do it. good for you not letting anyone.change your mind:) were not wrong and neither are they for doing it but everyone has there own opinion. @lposchx
she always tells me oh well we have plently months before birth you'll change your mind before then.
I'm sorry she is acting like that :/ but don't give in. That is YOUR babyboy and your decision. I'm sure you love her and I am sure she will forgive you but she needs to understand it's your choice. Good luck and I hope she comes around by Christmas. Maybe try and talk to her and apologize that she feels that way but that this is your opinion and decision and you want your mom around.
Who fights about skin on a baby's penis? She's ridiculous and I hope she gets over it. It's your child mama!
@soontobemomof5, I'm sorry that happened to you. :( parents should be accepting of their children no matter what. it's so stupid to me.. @kbuggie20 I feel bad for her, but at the same time.. she couldn't done her own research & stood up for herself. she just chose to trust my mom & she had the most uneventful birth experience ever.. she was sleeping when my nephew was born.. she didn't even push, he just came out.
@chantebrandon, I'm hoping sooner rather than later. they're the only family we could spend Christmas with since my husbands is in Minnesota & we can't go up there. - my MIL is extremely supportive of us not doing it. she has 4 boys & none of them are. so when we told her we weren't, she was pretty happy. I just expected the same reaction from my own mom.
@lposchx, that breaks my heart for your sister:( she couldn't even make her own choices with her birth that is so sad:( thank goodnes you are standing by your beliefs@lposchx
Unfortunately you can't force her to talk to you which with that holidays coming up is going to be hard but hopefully she comes around before your little one arrives. Circumcision is a very personal decision that should be nobodies business but the parents, unfortunately not just with this but with almost every aspect of your child's life someone will have something to say or advice to give. My mom didn't talk to me for a week including the day of Christmas 4 years ago because I told her I was pregnant with my 3rd and I wasn't married. It was a hard holiday but she eventually got over herself and came around.
Eventually she'll come around! It's your child your obligated to do whatever makes you happy! I didn't get my son circumcised and me and his father is cool with that! As well as his pediatrician!!
@kbuggie20, I'm not changing it. my sister had a boy, & my mom basically took over all parental decisions when he was born. down to not doing skin to skin, even if my sister got an epidural or not. - she is SO controlling. I think she feels threatened that I'm not like my sister & wont let her just make every decision for me.
@maybebabygirl, she thinks it's gross & unsanitary. it somehow goes against her religious beliefs, but we don't share the same beliefs. - she bullied my sister into a lot of different parenting decisions & is mad that I'm doing the complete opposite. / I'm not circumcising. I plan on breastfeeding. I'm not getting an epidural. she isn't even going to be allowed in the room when I give birth.
@lposchx, my mom is the same way sadly, we don't even talk because she raised me the same way yours did to be strong and educate my self and stand by my decision, i dont understand how if she had two girls how that would go against what she taught you, thats leaving your baby boy natural? at the end of the day girl its your decision, I wouldn't change my opinion @lposchx
Everybody who's had a "suggestion" about my son, I've encouraged to buy an uncircumcised dildo and either snip or don't snip away.
@kbuggie20, I did.. she said it went against what she taught me to believe in. then this whole massive fight happened. no matter how much I tried I educate her or get her to see my side, she didn't care. - it's messed up. she taught me to do my own research & stand my ground for what I believe in. but then she fights me when I do exactly that. it's so childish
I personally am getting my son circumcised and I understand people have different parenting styles, its your baby though who is she to get upset at you for YOUR parenting choice? try to talk yo her about it and ask her why it makes her so upset.
I don't understand why it matters if you circumcise him or not, he's YOUR child at the end of the day your momma needs to respect that, maybe as her what the deal is?@lposchx
We're not circumcising if it's a boy. I see no point other than style and that's not a good enough reason to cut my baby right after he's brought into the world.