Mommas, If my baby is due feb 2 .. Right around the corner . Is it weird for people to buy her Christmas presents ? Presents for her that me and my bf would have early to unwrap ect?
The reason I ask ... My bf parents haven't bought her one single item... It hurts my feelings my pregnancy is almost over and feels like they could care less, but in fb chat my bf told them all he wants for Christmas is stuff for baby bc we still need a lot and they ignored the message for house and just responded with we aren't buying the baby gifts til she is here, call it superstition. Like what in the actual fuck? Am I being crazy and not rational ?
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Perfect advice. I'm going to do just that and see where it all goes. Thank you so much @rhonda.otero
Oh well then I would try my hardest not to worry about it. I understand wanting them to be happy and do for the first grandchild but at the same time no one wants fake happiness. I would try my hardest to play the wait and see game... I would be cordial but no extra effort to include them in things and information on the baby.. You can see when someone is genuinely interested
Lol yeah that's for sure but who knows I kind of don't even want them around the baby at this point guess time will tell @mimi12
Exactly !! I feel it's an excuse, and I really hate to say it but I feel like they want something to happen with their actions they are showing :( @rhonda.otero they were kind of in shock at first bc it is their first grand baby but supposedly they are happy but since the beginning it kind of feels like a show .. @rhonda.otero
That's what I was thinking.. You could have her today and everything would be fine so this far along that could just be an excuse... Were they happy when you guys told them?
I understand the water works cause I cry over the simplest things, just don't wanna see you get stressed over someone else's rudeness or insensitive behavior .
I CAN'T STAND my mother in law, so I think she bought a lot of stuff to try and buy my affection though, different people act differently, do think about it so much, but once that baby is here make sure they put out lol
@mommylegg, these tears have been like water works lately once I start they just keep going lol . Like you said it's hard not to , I can't help it I know it's not good for baby so I try to stop every time I get upset .
That's how I thought it was going to be 😭😭 @mimi12 I think the exact same way. 💔
@jade90kdcicg my MIL does stupid things too. like she gets mad cause I don't update her 24/7 on the baby. so I feel she does this stupid stuff on purpose, so in turn I let everything she does go.
@rhonda.otero, I don't see how it's bad luck ... Maybe if I was in my first tri I could but I could have her at anytime so I don't get it . Very sweet of your mom that's awesome though
Aw bless your mom that's so sweet @greenleigheli191 that's the way it should be
@mommylegg, right , like they don't have to and what not but it really hurts my feelings and everything knowing they haven't got her anything and she could be here at anytime and it's their first so in my head since the beginning I thought they were going to be thrilled and couldn't wait to buy her something
I'd feel the same way!! I don't want to make u feel worse but family and friends were getting gifts all thru out my pregnancy for all my kids. I'd say ESPECIALLY if it's the FIRST grandchild they should have bought something for him by now. but maybe that's just me
listen don't cry about it, even though it's hard not to. it's not worth working yourself up because in the end it's on them not you.
I'm due in may and my son is getting tons of stuff for Christmas. my family did the same thing for my daughter last year when I was pregnant for her. I definitely wasnt complaining Im honestly glad they did I used everything they gave me!
Your answers made it sink and and I'm crying. Thank you for honest feedback. I'm so hurt. I'm constantly trying to justify in my head why they haven't got their first grandchild one single item this whole pregnancy but I just try to make myself feel better by thinking there's a reason but there's not . @mariahabigael @missyowl92
No because my husbands parents are the same way. they haven't contributed to it at all. I mean they don't have too but it's their first grandson .
Some people do think it's bad luck.. But my mom has already bought my daughter 15 things for Christmas more than all the other grandkids including my oldest two and baby won't be here until March... I prefer baby gifts as well so not weird at all
No your not crazy... They should be getting stuff for the baby, you're far enough along that I don't know what they would be superstitious about. My family and my Hubby's family is getting baby gifts for us and he's due January 15th
You're welcome I hope it works out for you