When I wasn't able to conceive and misscarrying I did not get any support from my in laws rather she said that she does not want any grandchild from his son anyway but defo hope for being nana from her daughter. Now I am pregnant for the first time and when we told bout our pregnancy, she did not seem happy or excited at all. I also told her that we will be able to get to know what we are having to which she had a go on me for no reason..😡 Now she wants to know what we are having..? what a hypocracy..? All i want to say in this dear @tuftyturtle .. stop bothering and do not expect nething from them thats what i am doing hardly talks and update them. If she wants to know anything she calls her son and that is it. We've been blessed by these lil angels, its our responsibility. They had their chance and we know what we are dealing with now its our chance not be such morrons and be kind and gentle to all others now and in future.

Sorry to hear that. A shame that they don't realise what they have in you and your children. But it seems that you know how strong you are. No doubt you can deal with anything (though it would still be nice to have the support and care of family)! Just focus on you, your partner, little boy and the new squish! Hope all goes well for you

Thanks 😘@babytime. It's just infuriates me when they turn up and expect my son to run to them and want to cuddle and play with them. Or when she goes on about how she tells all her friends about him blah blah. I just think,you don't even know anything about him!!! you've never asked about him. In the first 4 months of his life they saw him twice and they live about 2 minute drive from us ! then my husband gets mad when I'm moody with them or get angry that they think they're such brilliant grandparents when actually they're rubbish.

@tuftyturtle Seems like your strong feelings are warranted. what can you do? some people are just careless and insensitive. and from what yoy you've said, stingy with their time, effort, emotions as well as money. How can they act like 'star grandparents' to a child they rarely see? Seem quite selfish. Want the rewards without any of the work. You are better off without them. And like you said, you've done it before so you can and will do it again.

Thanks @babytime @annethe but they really won't step up or be helpful or supportive. That's how they are. They didn't care the first time I qas pregnant. didn't offer to buy anything for the baby (which I think most grandparents do) didn't buy him a gift when he was born, have never one called to see how he is (he's 2 in March so that's quite a long time of not calling) or when I first gave birth never once called to see how I was getting on or if we needed anything. I don't have contact with my own parents so it's not like I'm getting support from anywhere else. I don't need it...I've brought up one child with no family or helping hands. I can do it again. It just infuriates me that they don't care in the slightest, make no attempts to help etc and then when they come to our house they try and act like star grandparents and expect my son to even know who they are. 😤 I hate them !

So sorry for what you're going through. Sadly a lot of people don't know what to say when they're told this kind of news. Hopefully they'll step up and be what you need when the time comes. Goodluck with everything. I'll pray that both you and your babe come out of this happy and healthy. 😘

I'm so sorry to hear that you're squish may be early and that you don't know yet how early. And no I don't think you're expecting too much from your in law either. It's a difficult time for you and your hubby. Maybe they don't know how to express their feelings and need time to process the information. They may be shocked too. But you and your oh need support now. Just a word of encouragement for you, my neighbors daughter just had her little girl last weekend. She was told her little one would be definitely early and that she would be very small. They did not give her much hope for a full term pregnancy. They didn't want to induce her because they wanted to give the baby as long as possible in mummy's tummy. They were very concerned. Long story short. In the end the baby was not early. Not by a long shot! Mum had to be induced because she was passed her due date! Both mum and baby are healthy and happy. The docs just didn't want to take any chances and told her what in their opinion was a real possible and wanted her to be prepared. Luckily it didn't come to that. And I have my fingers crossed that you and your baby will get as much time as you need too! Be strong. Your in laws will come around in time too and be able to give you strength and support. Mine are really overbearing (as are my parents) but when I had my LO they were a big help! You will also have people to come to your aide too. You'll see. Ax