So, I'm kinda fighting with my best friend. I think maybe I was too hard on her. But let me tell you the story. And you tell me if my pregnant hormones got the best of me.

I met this beautiful, amazing girl in 2013; my family and I had lost my mamaw the yr before 12/5/12; 12/11/13 they foreclosed our house and cops came to kick us out....This family decided to take us in..thanks to this girl. Me and her instantly clicked. she was 19 and she was so good with my kids. (at that time Isabella was 10mths and Aiden was 3) she was so good! I knew she'd make a great mother if that opportunity ever arose. she later told me that her Foster mom said she couldn't get pregnant. Well in April of 2014; we moved out and we went our separate ways, we did however keep in touch. she is literally my only best friend. I love her too death. She went to Alabama. Then a few months later she came back up this way, and ended up dating an old boyfriend from high school (who cheated on her, and got his baby mama pregnant that same day..and didn't have the balls to break up with her)...I told her I thought it was a bad idea. she's a sex freak, loves sex, that's the main reason she dated him.

Well they ended up packing up and moving to nc for his job. In about April 2015 she had missed two periods, and I told her she needed to go to the Dr or get a test. they were too afraid of his brother and his dad (his dad, who lives nowhere near nc) to get a test or ask to go to the Dr. The brother ended up finding out finally. Cara had taken three pregnancy tests and didn't believe it. she kept making up excuses..and never had her first prenatal appointment til 11wks and that was just blood work and an ultrasound to see how far along she was, since she had no idea and never tracked her periods. They said she's 11wks and due Feb 8th. They done her blood work and ended up calling her back, saying blood tests showed up positive for cystic fibrosis. They proceeded to tell her that her and the daddy needed to get tested. And that the baby probably has it. She Never made that appointment. she never got retested. well her and Porky broke up..and they go their separate ways, her mom pays for her to come home, and Porky stays in nc. (he had flirted and cheated on her for the last time...so i thought) Porky then proceeded to flirt with me..even sending me nudes..and said he loved me. I wasn't all for that. I haven't told her about the nudes or love thing...I don't see the point since she never listens.

I begged the entire time she was in nc, that she needed to keep her appointments and go. again, there was always an excuse....when she got back up here...I begged her to find a Dr..and get her Medicaid. which doesn't take long at all for a pregnant woman! I got mine the same day usually. She still makes excuses and says she can't get her Medicaid...I know that's bs.

she finally found an obgyn around 22wks pregnant (eleven weeks later)..she had finally had her first prenatal visit. Then she was scheduled to see her baby...since they hadn't since eleven weeks. and you know that they love to do the anatomy scan around 18-22wks. they scheduled her for the next week...but guess what, she couldn't go! she had it rescheduled and at 23.5wks she then found out she was having a baby girl. they said everything looked good with the baby. They then scheduled her for October 27th..at 25wks most likely to do her glucose test..and this is what made me mad...

she had gotten back with her ex..the baby's daddy..who never gave a crap about em...cara and Porky are both guilty of only wanting to see each other to get laid. he promised he'd take her home in time so she could go to the obgyn. her aunt also said she'd find a way to her. so she wouldn't have to miss another appointment. Well...cara gets up there and brags about getting laid...I'm disgusted. (a few weeks before...he had gotten caught with sleeping with two underage girls..underage I mean 12-13yr olds..he's 21)...I ignore her. well I had an appointment for my anatomy scan the 29th of October. I went and baby is developing great and it's a boy! I came home..told cara. she was in the mountains and didn't have service. when she did finally get service she was excited and I asked how her appointment with for storm..she proceeded to tell me she wasn't home yet. and had to again reschedule. (she's only had three visits to an ob!!!) I asked why, she said because Porky won't allow her to leave or put gas in the car for her to go home. I called bs. and she said I'm trying..I've tried everything, even her aunt couldn't come get her. I asked if she realized how important these appointments were. and that this does file under the fetal protection law. She said she knew..or claimed she knew. I doubt it.

I told her that she could lose her baby... she asked how. I explained the drs and others (like her aunt who has proved she's unable to live alone, and cannot care for her..and has custody of her three grandkids..) could get her documents from the Dr and file neglect charges and they could prove her unfit. and take her child. she then proceeds to tell me that she rebuked that in the name of Jesus and everything would be fine and I needed to calm down.

I said you realize the drs the courts they're not gonna listen to you and your bullshit excuses of never having a ride or blah blah blah I'm like they only look at how many times you've been to the dr...and I said you realize that the further along you get the more you have to go to the obgyn..

she said no. she said she was trying her hardest. I said that she knew she'd regret going back, and that the only reason she did was to get laid and she knew she'd most likely get stuck up there. and she went anyways. she knew what she was doing. and I said you realize how bad it sounds to put Porky, yourself, and sex above your baby's welfare? she then told me

"I'm trying autumn I really am..and I'm not putting anything above my baby, I'm really not, and I love my baby"

I told her if she loved her baby then she needed to act like and to keep her Damn appointments they make her before she loses her baby. the last thing she said to me was "I will."

I haven't talked to her since from being so angry. and then she posted a picture of the daddy kissing her belly..and her saying he loved her. he doesnt love his son, why would he love his daughter? all cara is to him is booty.

he hasn't even gotten a job to pay for the baby supplies..hasn't offered to buy baby supplies..buys nothing for his son. and he never messaged her to see how her and his child were doing. all he done was party drink and have sex with anything and still does..even around her but she's too dumb.

if he really loved her and that child he would have put gas in the Damn car and took her to her appointment at least, whether or not he wanted to take her home..he could have taken her to the dr for her tests and check on the baby.

I fear she will lose this baby. with all the neglect already. no regular appointments..and her aunt where she already has custody of three kids..and cara herself...til cara became an adult..I fear where cara has already been proved unfit, mentally incapable and somewhat retarded she won't have a chance...I know what's going to happen..and I've warned her...from the beginning. but she doesn't listen.

I love her too death, but she doesn't listen and I can only send so many legal links, warnings, and everything... I finally lost it. and in my head she deserves it.

I'm twenty weeks pregnant and I've had about 15 appointments cause of different possible things that can go wrong..but cara is so oblivious about this!

tell me am I wrong for going off on her and basically saying she doesn't love her child and not talking to her anymore?

thanks for reading this....