ugh! <------this is my constant emotion! I'm a momma of 4 (9,6,3,1) 23 weeks pregnant with with my…

take your time... make time for your self. but with the kids you can do a lot of things like spend one to two hours a day with each one doing something they love... and when ever the baby is up you can ask the child is ok if the baby can join in or be around while you spending time with them. they most likely will say yes then you can take a lil break and help them bond with the baby. it's a win-win situation... if they don't want the baby around take a break take care of the baby and keep track of the time you are away from the child and make it up soon as you get the baby together. or do family outings leaving the baby with a trusted adult and take the kids out and enjoy the time with them then at night you can read them a book before bed. or during bath time read to them then. really just show them that just because there's a new sibling in the house doesn't mean you love them any less... and when you need a break ask for just a lil time to get yourself together. it might be hard at first but it will get easier as you get the hang of it

i think its overwhelming the responsibility u already have. but having ur so in life is a blessing. i hope u arent getting depression and that is the root of how tired and unconnected to ur baby. it may also be the guilt your feeling is causing u to feel down. im sure ur a great mother. and ur kids are happy. dont try to find perfection. u are doing everything u can. and thats enough. pregnacy fatigue can also influence ur life. id try to practice helping ur kids become more independant helpful around house. so as to help u run ur home easier. make them responsible for themselves. even when little. ect. team efort. dont worry just stay positive try diferent things to make ur life less stressful. some rest time for u.

I could have written this, myself. 😢 I know EXACTLY what you are going through!!! Only I have three kids (2 are bonus kids from my husband) and am about to have #4. Same situation. I'm finding myself becoming resentful in so many ways, depressed and I am also having EXTREME anxiety. My husband is just combative and insulting when I try to talk to him about how I am feeling. I'm losing hope.

@momma11161407, I'm thinking of you. It is SO hard!!!

it is very hard but having my SO be supportive helps. If you ever need to de-stress feel free to private message me :)

@eternalsunshine4,

Thank you @momma11161407, I sat in the tub for an hour and sobbed, last night, after expressing my concerns to my husband. It was awful. I'm so anxious all the time, lately, I'm dizzy and have upset stomach, little appetite, wanting to avoid home. I'll PM you.

its OK to cry! it took a long time for my SO to finally get it they take longer to understand sometimes. Anxiety sucks I live with it daily! I had to learn to take time for myself and not feel bad for doing it. Even if it's for a couple hours take it.

@eternalsunshine4,