oh gosh guys i keep reading how moms shouldnt throw their own showers because its gift grabby and tacky. but im not caring about gifts im caring about being able to cook and decorate and party. my inlaws want to do it for me ...but i just want their help not them taking over the preparation. in the end hubby is complaining bout the cost...but he shouldnt because he knew it was something i had planned. and we do have the money. but he just doesnt like spending money in parties..even though he did it with my daughters birthday last week. but then he had invited his friends. i guess he felt inthusiastic but he doesnt feel the way bout the baby shower. im having my third after eight years and im feeling very emotional about him not wanting to spend money. its just driving me crazy mixed feelings. like i dont want a party if its not my way. :(