If you don't want her in there, tell the nurses and they will keep her out. Their main concern is for your well being because you are the one going through the hell of labor and you need to be able to stay focused and undistracted. So if you explain to the nurse the situation and what you would like to happen, they will be happy to help you make it happen.

my sister has a baby. she knows the rules...

Give the nurse a list of people allowed in there ad she will tell your sister. Nurses loveeeee kicking people out that way you don't feel bad and they can tell you sister ther is a rule

they'll come up with something.

i just want one thing to be done my way and I think its fair to want this to be my way. not selfish

@mamashane89, i made the decision to not use medication so i know I'll be grouchy and I know my sister (17 years old) is gonna roll her eyes and give me attitude and I'll say something mean to her and feel bad and I get so guilty feeling over everything. I tried talking to my mom (who is gonna be in the room) about it and she told me to quit being selfish and that shes not that bad (she is that bad but shes an angel to my mom)... I'm just so emotional and I dont know if i can handle the pain and them all at once. I'm thinking i just wont tell them when i go into labor...

Why not ask her to just be supportive and not try to control the situation while she is there with you and if she can't do that, then she will not be allowed in there with you? I have to do that with my soon to be ex husband and my mom. They both wanna be in the room but only 1 is allowed with a c-section so I chose mom of course and explained to my soon to be ex husband that it is more comfortable for me that way and that he had to accept it.

@_akgirl, but she will know its because i dont want her in there. itll hurt her feelings

you could tell the nurses and they can kick her out. they did that for me with my bfs parents.