Vent- why are the most hurtful people family? I'm 39 and 30 weeks pregnant with baby number 8. I'm blessed with 3 children ages 21, 13 and 11. I've had 4 losses since my 11 yr old was born. Went to visit my cousins today that I haven't seen in years over my aunt's house. they wanted to know when my baby shower was going to be. before I could say anything my aunt blurted out, " she isn't having one, why would she if she can't be sure this one is going to live or not. waste of money". I got up and left. well now i understand why when i brought up the idea of a baby shower earlier in my pregnancy i was getting negative vibes. never had one for any of my kids.