If you ask for advice...you need to do what is best for you and your daughter. No man that loves you will ever put his hands on you. That tells you right there. I know you love him but that's not enough. He sounds like a piece of work. Your daughter doesn't need to grow up around that. There are so many other fish in the sea. When you're ready to start dating again, I'm sure you will find the man you deserve. Just be patient. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't settle.

Thanks @aboutellesbabe I am starting to think that way!! After being married at 20 divorced at 22 and pregnant at 23 I am not rushing into another relationship any time soon!! I have had enough of dating and sex to last me a life time!! I am going to focus on college and my daughter! I don't need no man even if I love my ex boyfriend to pieces I don't even need to co parent with him so I just need to forget all about him!

Girl you are beautiful and one day someone IS going to make you feel that way. He is obviously not the one. But when you do find that guy who loves you and treats you right, you will be so happy that you decided to let this one go. He didn't deserve you hun. I know love will make you do crazy things, trust me! But don't let this one ruin your life. Let this be a lesson learned that you deserve so much better and got a beautiful daughter out of it :)

Yeah that's what I have been thinking! Thanks everyone! I am definitely going with my last name!!

My first son's biological father wanted nothing to do with my son so my first born has my last name and I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm not sure how it works in other states, but here in California you can have a blank spot for the fathers name on the birth certificate. If the biological other half hasn't put anything into this child, then don't give the baby his last name. Why honor him like that?? Give your baby your last name.

every woman is beautiful... and if the guy that planned to get you pregnant doesn't see that... who needs him.

Thanks @mommytobekarlito and yeah @mermaidmommy I agree it's hard bc we were together for two years and best friends before that and it wasn't always abusive but like I said I do love him but I don't think he would go to the hospital any way... But thanks! I am pretty sure I am going to use my last name. I love my daughter and it's hard but I will get over my ex at some point. At least I know he can't have custody or anything I just want him to love me again... It rly makes me feel ugly and stuff bc he don't want me anymore...

if ANY man beat me while I was pregnant.. he wouldn't be on the birth certificate, he wouldn't be at the dr. apointments, and he damn sure wouldn't be allowed at the hospital to see the baby he barely claims... (btw you can tell the hospital that you don't want him there, and they don't have to let him into labor and delivery..) because I feel that if I was in your shoes... he would cause me more stress than I needed to be dealing with while In labor. labor is already gonna be painful and bad enough, you don't need to add a doucher to it. and, good luck on baby.

I agree I just hope everything work out n everything

It's not even about the rights it's the fact I don't know if it would make since bc her dad don't do anything and I will have full custody of her and if he does want to see her it's going to be supervised so I am more like her mom and dad... @mommytobekarlito

The dad isn't rly even a dad though I am rly not sure what your saying @mommytobekarlito

I think the baby should have her/ his dad last name I understand the situation but it doesn't mean he gonna get his full rights do what makes u conforble n do what best for baby girl!

Yeah I think I want to go with my last name!!

See I was thinking of using both but my family thinks it's so stupid bc he don't do shit to help with our daughter and he treats me like shit but I love him so I kind of I guess not thinking straight.. And in Vermont you can't change the last name of the child I guess so I not sure what to do... A lot of people are saying not to use his last name bc of the crap he did to me and the fact he don't do anything for the baby and bc his past. You just say the last name and people say "oh god your going to need a lot of help thouse people are mentally crazy.." Which is defffinitly true

It sounds like you already know what you should do, honey. Don't let your heart fool you. <3

every mom is different but i guess whatever you decide just remember it can be either or... or even both if u want. it's up to you

Right that's how I see it, I just know bc of his sex assault charges that long story short he isn't on the registry and it was all made up by his cousin but anyway that's rly messy as is so that's why I feel like I think maybe it wouldn't be bad to give her his last name bc he only gets to see her at visitations if he decides to want to see her at all....

Don't do it.. I wouldn't put my fiancé last name on my daughter if that's how he would treat me. I wouldn't want her in his life if he thinks it's not his also.. It's just how I am. I kno u love him.. But gotta think of your baby girl.. If my fiancé decided to act like that.. I would have no problem of pushing him away from my life. One my baby girl goes first. Not him..

don't give him power over her. You give him power over yourself but do not let him do what he does to you to your little girl as well

Then don't give the baby his last name... It doesn't need to have his last name to still be his and that can be proved. If he abused you then he isn't worthy of that regardless if he decides later on he wants to be in her life, if he's any kind of a man or father at all he will be in her life regardless of her last name.