Thank you @babyhawkins2015

Communication is key in a healthy relationship. People get scared of the unknown, uncertainty and "what ifs"...it might be why he said it. The man upstairs makes no mistakes... and the new life you carry was given to you both for a reason. Much Aloha =)

@jsb87, @jenkobe8348, @babyhawkins2015, @flower_princess Thank you ladies I really appreciate this. I will talk to him more and @babyhawkins2015 I can't see myself without him I love him so much and after all the things we have been through and made it through I couldn't see myself going through that with anyone else. I don't regret anything but every time I feel like he tries to take the easy way out because he don't have to actually go through it. But I will talk to him once more to try and see if we can get a understanding and figure out things like we always have.

When I first told my husband (before we were married) that I was pregnant he said have an abortion and I told him I wasn't going to do that because I don't believe it's the baby's fault and it shouldn't be like that and that if he didn't want to be in my child's life that was fine that I would work my butt off to provide for my little one and after a week or so of us arguing he started to want this baby and now that I'm 7 months he is over protective of everything I do, and he wants his baby out already so they can do " cool stuff " he says. You should talk to him

I just had a very similar conversation with a good friend of mine yesterday...only she is actually already married (for 10 years & has a 5 year old with him).

Speaking from experience...before you get married (and I, by no means are trying to make you a run away bride.... lol), everyone should make it a point to ask themselves one simple question.. Can I picture life without this person?? If your answer is genuinely a yes and without thought (and not because the other person may be a good person or have a good heart or not even because of them being a great parent but because you feel you can't breathe without them and they are constantly in your mind, heart & spirit 24/7; even when you are laying right beside them , or you'd even take a bullet for them)...then you can rest assured you will live a long, happy and prosperous life together. However, if there is any hesitation or thought that you could live without that person, it may not be such a happy life and inevitably, the relationship will probably eventually cease.

Many people mistake security, comfort or attachment as love..this is where marriage goes down hill.

I asked my friend why she got married some 10 years ago and she replied, "cause it was the right thing to do after 7 years of dating."

Now that I understand the difference between loving and being IN LOVE with someone, I was dumbfounded...I would have expected a response such as, "because I loved him and wanted to grow old with him". Then

I asked her if she could imagine life without him. And as quick as I asked, she replied "YES!!!"

She cried for almost 2 hours & didn't realize that she was not in love and is now be entertaining the thought of a trial separation.

My point is this (forgive me for this novel of a response.... But I wished I had someone to tell me this when I got married and divorced 13 years and 3 kids later) Life is too short to have regrets... Be happy as much as you can... It's our attitude on life and making the best decisions for you and your little ones.

I pray it works out with your relationship, but if not, remember that you are much stronger than you believe! I am a living testament to that.

Have that baby, girl and ROCK that pregnancy with or without him!

Much Aloha and blessings

@poodie87, because he knows you don't believe in abortion and because he knew exactly what he was getting hisself into when he slept with you I definitely would not get an abortion. He should have taken more of a precaution if he didn't want any kids, especially because he been through this before with you. My Bd didn't want my 1st son and he missed out on the 1st 3years of my son's life... We reconciled and 6months later u got pregnant with this baby. He tried to tell me I should get an abortion and I told him the same thing. You no I don't believe in abortion so this time around you knew the risk for having unprotected sex. And he said in right and he's preparing to take care of his responsibilities this time around. He doesn't want to miss out on 3 yrs of this new babies life.

sorry I meant to put **you're a great mother & woman** @poodie87

Exactly. You're mother and woman. You got this! :-) @poodie87,

Thank you @anqiee323

I would have the baby & what she said ^

Thank you @jsb87 this means a lot. I will continue to pray everything works out and continue to focus on me and my babies because those are you matters most

Sorry you are going through this. But I personally wouldn't have an abortion just because he doesn't want the baby. He took that chance in bed with you. He now has to pay the price. Your babies are innocent and don't deserve to be put down. He was grown enough to have unprotected sex so now he needs to be grown and support your babies and you. Think about yourself and babies. Praying everything works out for you. @poodie87,