okay so I snooped on his phone. he's talking to his ex. he used Snapchat so I can't see what is…

I would for sure. be strong! you're better than that

oh no!! that's so disrespectful of him! I'm so sorry things have gotten to this. :( you need to focus on you and baby now. not him. I know you'll be strong and make the best decision. but remember you're never alone you have all of us on Preggie :) stay strong! I'll be thinking of you

@lc, @14emathews. idk how to even be happy. he confuses me so much

@butterflymommy you have to not necessarily be happy in this moment but you have to be strong and brave for you and your little one. it seems like a very messy situation right now. if you don't want to leave him just yet you could always give him an ultimatum. girls know and find out everything. you don't even have to tell him you went through his phone. you could just simply say I heard that you've been talking to your ex and you don't know how incredibly upset this makes me. if it doesn't stop now and I find this out again I'm going to have to leave because its not healthy for me nor for the baby.

but who would I find out from? i dont know anyone here. but my family @14emathews

@butterflymommy hmmm you could bring it up as curiosity. you could just casually bring it up and say are you talking to your ex?? I'm just curious. if he says no you know its a lie.

@14emathews she can ask to look through his phone....if he starts asking questions or says no blame it on a dream. Say you had a dream he was cheating and you just want to make sure

@olladysaidy that's a good idea! I didn't think of that one! if he isn't hiding anything he should be willing to give it up freely

@14emathews exactly! if he doesn't give it up then you can say he is cheating....and stop talking to him completely. Men need the neglect in order to know how serious you are. Not yelling or arguing....just good old silence. He may admit it and leave or think about what he's doing, delete all messages, and commit to you. Either way you have to stay positive....no man should bring you down.

@14emathews. i confronted him and he said he'd never talk to her again and try and earn my trust again. I have yet to see this

@14emathews

I hope he turns around and treats you right, but no matter how much you love him if he doesn't you have to love yourself more and walk away. Nobody deserves to be in a relationship with someone who isnt faithful.. Its bad for your mind body and soul and it will break you if you let it. With a baby on the way you gotta be strong and theres nothing stronger than mommy strong.. Best of luck to you hun!!!

@butterflymommy it'll take some time for him to earn your trust again but I am proud that you said something to him! :) hopefully he will take this as a lesson and a warning that he needs to grow up and act right. he has a family now. he needs to be done playing games and respect what he already has...you and the baby