Not saying anyone is wrong, but I firmly believe you should be married before having a child. I see a few of you ladies…

In some part ur right but I see some girls that are married & still struggling or the "husband" cheats ... I think it's just the guys choice married or not married don't you think?

@flowersssxo everyone had the choice to cheat or not to cheat, just feel like married couples have more to lose.

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i agree with @flo me and my bf live together and have been together for a long time and we are best friends, he is 100% supportive and our only problem is he takes all the blankets from me at night lol

@firefly, I agree a 100% in my family you gotta be married first before having sex and kids and I did both... people respect you more when you have a kid inside marriage... some people might not agree with us lol oh well

@esmeralda2015, I know 😇

I am engaged and pregnant. it wasn't really planned but we new we needed to do it soon beacuse in the next 3 years I'll have to have a major surgery. I want my kids to wait till marriage before sex but let's face it now a days that rarely happens

My husband and I were engaged for a while and were on birth control when we got pregnant. We went ahead with the wedding and now we are happily expecting and married. He is also the second man I've been with. I always have arguments with him because I tell him that I hope my kids choose to wait. And he is more liberal about that :/ I don't judge anyone and respect everyone's choices especially the choice to give a child a chance to live regardless of the circumstances

Me and my boyfriend have been together for four years and known each other since middle school we planned a child because we knew we were ready. We don't wana get married because we both have finances and stuff we need to get situated before putting everything in "our" name. I think marriage can have problems and maybe even lead to divorce as can relationships have problems and end to a break up. It takes a strong couple to stay together no matter the situation. And me and my boyfriend fight through every battle together knowing breaking up isn't a option for our family. And yes one day we plan to get married but our kid came before that and I couldn't be happier.

@jrsmommy0310, lol true but in my culture some man are not going to marry you if you are not a virgin

@esmeralda2015, my fiance was my first. and we wanted to go ahead and have children before my heart surgery. the one I'm pregnant with now and then try again after are wedding in September

I think that's a little harsh to say @firefly you are entitled to your own opinion but things happen in life and they happen for a reason. what these girls are going through with a hard relationship on top of having relationship problems will only make them stronger and grow as a person. some might have also grown up with parent's that went through a tough marriage and ended in divorce so they might be afraid of that commitment because of what their parents went through. everyone has a story to their life 😃

@jrsmommy0310 it is very true but we can try right instill values and rules in our house hold. @alhynele I believe in pro choice just from my views I have seen children struggle because there was no love in there parents relationship or they were a bit wanted baby by one parent. NOT saying this is the case for everyone. @esmeralda2015 this is so true a lot of men like to share that special bond with their wife being their first and only it's a very special thing that should not just be given. @courtney_boyea yes everyone had a story and they learn from it, and other people have seen friends and loved ones struggle because they had a child to early, which is why I waited until marriage. Having a child is a life time commitment, and so isn't marriage.

@firefly, 😊

I as an independent woman dont need ANYONE'S respect. My parents respect me, my bf's family respects me and my bf respects me. So everyone else doesnt matter, in my opionion marriage is just a piece of paper, and my bf talks to me all the time about our wedding and when we get married but honestly in our hearts now we are married we know we love eachother unconditionally we dont need a certificate to prove our love for eachother. and married women get divorced just as easy as bf/gf break up. BUT everyones opinion is different so I get where you guys are coming from, im not trying to sound like some high school brat who thinks their right about everything, im just simply stating how I feel. (btw im not a highschooler) lol @firefly @esmeralda2015

@waitingonnoah20, I understand and we are not judging anyone I said in my culture a woman supposed to be married before having kids and sex. some people don't believe in it oh well... but It's my belief and that's what I followed I respect other people's beliefs

@waitingonnoah20 no where in there did I say anything about needing anyone respect. I was stating my opinion. And yes sometimes married couples get divorced but it is a extremely long process so not as easy as breaking up. No you don't need a certificate for marriage but don't you want to have the same last name as your child love? Also don't you want to be entitled to see them in the hospital have rights to things if God forbid anything happen?

let me revise have the same Kat babe add your child and loved one, and the rest was referring to your significant other not child.

@firefly no, the respect part was for esmeralda & thats a great point as well you have to go through so much just to not be with your partner anymore. and i know you dont literally get a certificate lol i was just making a point. im not saying i dont believe in marriage because i definitely do & my bf and i are going to get married in the future. and i wont discuss my love being in the hospital for any reason because i hate to think of such things. @firefly

@waitingonnoah20, the respect I was talking about is for the kid. they will respect a kid more inside marriage than outside marriage I've seen it happen. some folks don't believe in marriage some do and just don't want to be married as they call it ( tie down). society will judge a kid base on his/her parents choices

Great values to instill in your child yes but I can tell you being married doesn't always make thinks roses. I'm 2.5 yrs divorced from someone I was married to for 10 yrs with 2 very wanted children. Well he left us all and is barely any part in my children's lives, he has no respect for me or my children. I'm expecting a child with an amazing man whom I am not married to and may never actually marry. This isn't how every situation is obviously but marriage doesn't always mean life will be perfect for anyone involved.

I have 3 kids and one baby on the way. All from same father, which ive been with for 9years and out of those years only 2 years married. To me in all honesty marriage doesnt change the relationship nor make it better. Its just a piece of paper and last name changed. My kids know there last name is their dads and i do have it now. But who cares what other ppl say. Everyones beliefs are different and people do things differently.. If you love the person u are with and want to marry good if not then dont!!! Children learn from what they see in their parents relationship married or just boyfriend and girlfriend.