Can I use ex yelling at child for potty accidents in court?
My 5 year old still not potty trained cause my ex keeps yelling at her on his time if she has accidents this usable in court ?
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@anastazia.anglesey the courts will see it as he said she said. You need to document conversations with him with exact dates and times. When you go to court you need a lawyer and then you need to only bring up the things that are causing harm to the child. Dance isn't considered a necessity( but you can get it in your parenting agreement if he agrees and signs that he has to help take her or allow you to take her on his time) potty training is a hard one because even for two parent households where a child doesnt switch back and forth some still struggle at five. As for him not bringing back clothes the clothes again will be considered the girls and he doesnt have to return them. I know its frustrating but you have to not worry about his time unless he is abusing them. He will parent different and even if hes doing the bare minimum you cant fix that. All you can control is how you parent and what you do on your time with them.
@mom2godzillaandwonkypets,
It sucks cause he narcissist wants control everything me and fiance took away his Thursday cause he was not picking up the girls on his time and he controlling, manipulation and he controls the girls and use them against me and daughter scared of him he yells a lot my older 10 years old she not aloud to do body functions around him or he yell at her she has to eat way he wants her to forces her to eat hamburger before fries that’s on her plate . She cry a lot when she misses activities he will tell her he will then lies won’t do it it been happening for long time we went to mediation he wasn’t taken his time was given so we take it away Thursday every week so during school year it’s every other weekend and me fiance they way they treat the girls they don’t want to go there it’s sad they come back telling us . In mediation in feb this year his lawyer suggested summer vacation out of school to my ex he said to make up time I don’t think he gets make up time for not taking his time the mediation says show him like he winning and he gets the girls every wed, Thursday and weekends if it lands his weekend then next week would he gets only wed Thursday and switch offs . He even has angry issues one incident went to McDonald and he pulled on her arm super hard yanked on it and lift her off the ground and he still didn’t get into trouble for that my daughter got checked out they wouldn’t tie that to him and it happend again doctors wouldn’t still tie it to him cause it didn’t feel sore tell 2 days later frustrated and dcfs called on him still happened my 10 year old daughter is in therapy and she told us she has anxiety disorder . This why frustrating
@mom2godzillaandwonkypets, the girls I use old clothes but still I gotta fork out money if putting underwear on my 5 year old autism daughter then she comes back in pull ups I can’t afford keep buying underwear she not suppose to be back in pull up so I’m taking picture of her side of her underwear that she wears then after I pick her up I take a picture in her pull ups . It took 2 years to get daughter baptism cause my ex said she could and he turn around tampered with the sign document . He this controlling still trying control my life and demand me to everything he wants and he not co parenting with me he denied my daughter to get tested for autism she can get the help she needs the lawyer when I got divorced they wanted doctor know he has to follow what they said and has to go by it and he was denying the girls help even she needs foot brace cause her foot was leaning inwards he denied getting those for her but doctor recommended a doctor note she has to have them but will not have them on his house he wants to control everything this is why it’s hard for my 10 year old daughter gets nothing what she wants of going to friends house over while she at her dad he won’t take her to dance lands his time I can’t control that some time that they have rehearsal lands his time or even performance he won’t take her she can’t have a life to do things she loves she scared of him to ask what she wants cause he yells at her and says mom fault and she knows it’s not I documented every text and with dates and times I even have a calander times and dates I put on there and even text messages showing Miss pick ups cause says can’t pick them up I gotta work . Also 5 year old comes back constipation. I just need input ideas what to do she is autistic taking longer to potty train her cause she was pooping fine my house and she not pooping in toilet after she comes back from dad house she was almost potty trained and now she back pooping in underwear idk what to do . She suppose to be potty trained the school said before kindergarten well can’t do that if ex yelling at her for having accidents . I put on her goal in IEP they help her potty trained her while she in school.
Honestly probably not. The courts unfortunately don’t really care about verbally abusive parents because it’s not considered as the child being “in danger” they usually only focus on neglect and physical abuse. It’s sad but it can just be heresay in court. With physical abuse they have marks and with neglect they have matted hair, dirty clothes etc.
He yells at her pulls on her arm yanks it and lift her up off the ground he got called on dcfs for it 2 times and won’t tie it to him she still sore that happened 4 months ago . They didn’t do anything to tie it to him
You need to talk to your lawyer about these things. We can’t answer them for you and even if someone has been through this before, every situation is different.
You need to document and have proof, you need a lawyer and you go back to court, but the biggest thing is potty training is tricky and if your not there on his time you cant prove thats the reason. In indiana they dont care a mother who is physically, mentally and on drugs is still allowed to be a parent and they dont care so im sure its the same for dad's. All you can do unless they are being physically abused is on your time be the mom they need.