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Что делать с ненадёжной няней: стоит ли увольнять помощницу?

Mommy delimma... Another case of wwyd ...

So I've been struggling bad with postpartum anxiety and just getting the hang of having my three kiddos. Their ages are a big factor but there's nothing I can change about that. My sweet and understanding husband has offered to get me help (yes, even as a stay at home mom). I have a housekeeper coming biweekly now and was trying to hire a mother's helper for the afternoon /evenings before hubby gets home(just started a new demanding job and a longer slightly longer commute). My kiddo is 11 and has more homework than ever and she needs help. She also has extra curricular activities she needs rides to. My 3 year old is just living her best life but she's high energy, doesn't nap, and likes to play, the baby is my Velcro kid that's currently teething. It's a mess from 3-6:30 around here.

Anyway, I hired my oldest old babysitter weeks ago as a mother's helper. She was supposed to start after the new year but came down with the flu. She stayed away and pushed it back a week but the flu is brutal this year and pushed it back another week... So now she's technically 2 weeks in but I'll show grace because she was sick. She just told me yesterday evening that she won't be able to work most Wednesday evenings because she has class... Which sucks because that's my husband's definite in office day and sometimes has late dinners with clients. I said okay I'll see you tomorrow. She texted me an hour ago and told me she's having a bad day and asked if she could start tomorrow instead. Like wtf. She's 20 years old and a friend's daughter which is why I'm hesitant to fire her before she even starts but like damn she's annoying lol. I just need reliable help 😩.

So would you fire her??

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lizibear84

Elizabeth Hebert

I’d explain to her that you need someone reliable, and if she can’t be that person, then it’s not a good fit. You’re not firing if she hasn’t started work, just reneging the offer

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massgirl

Mandy

That's a very good point. She can't even be fired at this point 🙄

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humblewarriormama

Mama Coco

I agree with Lizibear. It sounds like you need to reset expectations with her and let her know you’re looking for someone who can commit to coming over regularly and reliably. If that’s not what she had in mind when she said she’d help, then it’s not the right fit for both of you.

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ekko

The EK 💋

I’m agree with @lizibear84, too. If there are times when you schedule appointments and are counting on her to be there, you can’t just get a few hour notice that she can’t come for a stupid reason. (Having a bad day is a stupid reason — I deal with so many reasons for missing work. Never heard this one!) You don’t need another source of stress in your life.

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malnjerdodd

Mallory Brooks

Мама подростка

I’m pregnant but nothing to do lol where are u located? Lmk if you still need help my name is Mallory 🤓

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ingemi_ash

ingemi_ash@yahoo.com

Мама троих детей

Please add me and message me I feel the same way and I’m trying to figure it out also but I hav e0 support here where I am and it’s sickening

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