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What's everyone's views on allowing your child to smoke weed. What is the age you find it appropriate or what age would you allow it and why?

I'm struggling here. I have been getting my kids older two siblings on the weekends. They want to spend the summer with me. When I say older they are 12 and 10. They have lived and live a different life than my kids have. They are pretty good kids for the most part. There are some things that I have to address with them when in my care but for the most part having them around is nice. There are some concerns I have for their living environment but I try to make sure at my house their needs are met and they have help with basic needs because they aren't getting that at home. I try to be their child appropriate safe space. With this being said I have learned that they smoke weed. My kids are very sheltered and I want to keep them as innocent and child like as long as I can. I brought up this topic
with their dad, he doesn't know but when I asked him what age does he feel it's appropriate he said basically he rather them smoke weed than pop pills and he rather it come from him because he smokes. He also started drinking and smoking very young. On both sides their dad and mom's side there is a history of alcohol/weed/drugs even with grandparents. Is it my place to talk to the boys about it and should I say something to their parents? I honestly feel like there aren't any boundaries at their mom's house and they are free to come and go as they please as long as they aren't bothering her. Their dad is also lacking in the parenting department so together I feel like these kids don't have a good structure. I try not to judge but I do see a lot of where the problems come from. They have seen and dealt with a lot of things they shouldn't have had to. So anyways. what's y'all's opinions and should I just mind my business as long as they don't do it in my home and around my kids ?
09.06.2025

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salazar593
salazar593
My husband and I would occasionally smoke here or there or take edibles just to avoid the smell in the house, but they don’t know at least my younger ones don’t know my 17 year old he’s not dumb he can smell it 👀 as the adults we choose not to smoke around them or get sloppy drunk around them. If one of us decides to get high the other will remain sober, we teach the kids what is for adults and the good and bad of recreational habits so when they are older and want to explore I hope we gave them the understanding on how to be safe. The age I would allow it is the age they are grown and out of my house. Tbh if my kids had a friend whose family has a vice I would prefer a pot house over a crack house or drunk house at least I know the users are chilled and they have snacks lol.
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lexiahernandez97
lexiahernandez97
At 12 and 10 hell no. I’d be seriously concerned about them being at dads, what’s next alcohol?
My belief is kids will do what they want behind our backs regardless. I plan to give them all the knowledge and guidance I can but in a safe space so if they do that kind of stuff they feel safe coming to me if they need help. I’m not saying I’d allow them, if it’s found in my home it’s gone. If I find out they are doing it there will be consequences But I grew up in a more strict house hold about smoking/drinking and I hid it well and put myself in unsafe situations because I was too scared of being in trouble.
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justgotaname
justgotaname
Way, way too young. Unfortunately they are going to be “fast” kids. Doing everything too early. They will be teaching yours. Your heart is in the right place, but…… Very tough since they are half siblings. 🙁
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feralwitchymom
feralwitchymom
Here we view Weed no different than cigarettes and alcohol. I feel it needs to be treated the same when people underage get their hands on it.
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jaymeerene
jaymeerene
12 and 10 smoking weed and Dad is ok and/or supplying it? That's grounds for a CPS call if a mandated reporter found out, negligence and child endangerment.
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icebergahead
icebergahead
Nope to smoking or being around people using it openly around minors.
Unless my child is an adult (the legal age) and choose to outside my living space (because the smell alone makes me fockin sick) lol but still, I would never encourage smoking just like drinking and cigerettes.
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llamapantaloons
llamapantaloons
I would say 18 or 21, whatever the legal age is here. I dont even know what age it is. 😂 But even then I still wouldnt agree with it, buuuut he would be an adult, so his choice.
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raisingblueyedbabiesx2
raisingblueyedbabiesx2
This is hard!! Id say 10 is to young. But I also started smoking at 14,
It helped me with a lot of mental issues I had that they had me proscription meds and I hated them.
I also know as a kid that smokes there going to get it one way or another definitely if there already doing it.
It's legal here and everywhere.
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mom2godzillaandwonkypets
mom2godzillaandwonkypets
That is way too young and if the parents are allowing it then it should be reported. Law now is 21 which is the same as drinking. I know kids are kids and will find a way to do it before 21 i know i did. We keep and open communication with brody. He know drug and alcohol addiction is high on his dad's side of the family. He knows that just trying it once with friends could mean he may struggle to stop in the future. When he is 18 and our of high school I wont be mad because college and living on your own its easy to get but im hoping he makes better choices then his dad and I.
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