Should I Stay or Leave? Understanding Divorce and Trauma Bonds
Don’t know if I want this divorce or not. Or if this is just the trauma bond 😭 😭
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I love you Jess. You deserve the world. It'll be greater later. You already know how I feel about the douchbag who DOES NOT deserve you. Text me anytime.
Someone close to me is going through this right now. I feel like this decision was the hardest for her. If you were happy, divorce wouldn't even be a question. You deserve to be the best & happiest version of yourself!
This is what I sent her... If You know you are leaving for the right reasons, don't keep questioning it. If it can't be fixed, it's time to let it go and be happy, enjoy your life and your kids lives.
In my state you have to be separated for a year, it's been a few months.
I wish I could just hug you guys, tell you, you are worth more & you deserve to be happy!
@rybugg413 the days you have your babies, make the most of it. The days you are alone, find yourself and your happiness.
Ohhhh no baby girl. I was unaware you was going through this. Big hugs
There is always going be questions in your mind if you’re doing the right thing, but just think about why you made the choice to get a divorce in the first place, do you still feel the way you did then?, has the person changed at all?. Just know whatever you do decide you deserve to be happy and loved 🩷
He ‘seemed’ to try to change but that didn’t last long. I think it’s the weekends alone that makes me fall in a dark hole. I miss the kids so much.
@rybugg413, when me and my husband separated for a bit when L was little the weekends were the hardest, I became super depressed so I understand that, maybe try to find things you can do for yourself things you haven’t be able to do?, that helped me a lot.
Definitely think of everything. It’s going to be hard no matter what. Big hugs ❤️
Thinking of you, babe. I know this is extremely hard! Your feelings are valid & it’s normal to question if you’re making the right decision. Just remind yourself of WHY you started to this journey & that you deserve to feel valued, appreciated, loved & safe. Be strong 🫶🏼