Подарок на годовщину: вопрос к мужу
So I've been thinking.... you know how I posted that I got an air fryer from my husband as a 10-year anniversary gift who thinks that's a s***** gift for being married for 10 years? I mean don't get me wrong we don't get along well at all anymore and it's not the greatest relationship but we live together and have three kids together which also kind of sucks together lol. But he must have cared enough to spend $70 bucks on an air fryer, but I would have thought after 10 years he would have gotten something more sentimental or is it just me? So instead he just went on my Amazon list and picked out anything
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Personally I’d be happy. But I have an air fryer. If it was something I was wanting/asking for I’d be happy. If it was something like house decor/jewelry (which I’m highly picky on) I wouldn’t like that. I’m picky on a lot of stuff like flowers, candy, jewelry… so hubs just stopped. I’m more grateful on that. Just get me wine and chips and I’m HAPPY.
We did agree on our 5 wedding anniversary we’re upgrading my ring. Together for 11. Married for 2.
I'm really thinking it's the thought that counts, but, I wonder if he just got you a gift because he thought he SHOULD get you a gift, or he got a gift because he WANTED to get you a gift.
You said you guys don't get along well at all, and you're basically just together because you have kids together. It just seems like he has, (or both of you have,) checked out of the relationship and is waiting for something to happen to put both foot out.
I really think the air fryer anniversary gift is the least of any issues, if I can be honest. More time could be invested in making the relationship better, then the gifts would, once again, be more well catered.
I also think that you absolutely have a right to your feelings. I do wonder, though, how he feels, having not gotten a gift at all, despite that you guys were fighting at the time. I just think the gift is irrelevant and superficial when taking everything into consideration. I wouldn't even be mad about it.
I agree with you on the he thought he should get me a gift that's what I was thinking too without looking like a a****** without getting me a gift. But it's so hard to work on a relationship we both work full-time we have a child with mental disabilities like bad and the twins it's like constant it's either kids or work it's all it's ever about. Or cleaning up this house after them constantly
Is this his style? Did he always give you anniversary presents that weren’t sentimental until this?
Well something a little more special than an air fryer something used to cook with lol.
We don't do anniversary gifts, and we're going on 15 years this year. It's usually nice cards, nice dinner, or a small weekend trip. I never really understood the need to give gifts on an anniversary, but I know some people do.
Did you guys go out to celebrate at all? We don't really get anniversary gifts at all...maybe a card and a little somethin but we go on a vacation every year to celebrate instead even if it's a staycation. If we didn't however...I would want something more than a damn air fryer especially for 10 years lol..that's a special one. Did you get him something?
They don't have the time or the money to do any of that and no one to watch the kids. Nope because we weren't getting along at the time and I was pissed lol. But he doesn't care
@ladyfreyja well maybe since y'all weren't in a good place that's why he didn't think much into a gift or outting. Maybe next year will be better for y'all. I would still feel some type of way tho arguing or not lol
We don't even buy gifts for each other for anniversary
Same. 😂 We’ve been together like 14 years and married 4 I think…I dont even remember the last time we gave each other an anniversary present.
@llamapantaloons yeah we been today 11 and married 5 this may and nope we do buy each other a card but that's it we don't even get to go on a date to celebrate. I am trying to do a date night this year and seeing if our photographer could do a mini photo shoot downtown before our dinner to celebrate 5 years. I wish we did all the fun romantic stuff but that's not his love language and we never have a babysitter
@llamapantaloons we have been together 12 years and he always gets me something
Idk I feel mixed opinions. I don't even remember what I got for my 10 year anniversary. 🤣
Maybe sentimental gifting is not his best department when handling special events. He was always like this or is this kinda new?
You guys could brainstorm something together to celebrate it even if it was a few weeks ago. Doing something together😁
Dh is terrible at planning. I am the planner so I know this is not his territory and would get flustered and stressed out. Air fryer is a thoughtful gift overall if you’ve been hinting at it and had it in your wishlist.
We never have time to do anything together. We haven't been on a date in almost 6 years. Don't have anyone to watch all three kids at once . And yes he has given me jewelry the first couple years we were together
Let me preface this with my husband always does gifts but sometimes I’ve got to pretend to like said gifts LOL 😂 But he really tries…but I would be THRILLED if he picked something off a wishlist I made bc I’m particular & I know I’d get something I wanted. I wouldn’t care what it was lol 😂 We’ve been together 13 years, married 10.5 years. And all we did for 10 years was cards & he got me a weighted blanket I was wanting but wouldn’t spend the money on. 😆