So i posted a few days ago about my best friend wanting updates every 2-3hrs while im in labor and deliver and that she was supposed to watch my oldest. Mil got clearance from work to leave anytime she needs to from now till i deliver. She has the week before and after my due date off from work.

I did end up in labor Thursday night. I have prodromal labor, which is fun. But mil was here in 10 mins and not a peep. Her only ask was to let her know we made it to the hospital safely and if they were sending me home. Which we did. Thats it!

I did talk to my therapist and was informed i definitely was not a jerk and that what i wanted to do was not out of the ordinary. She feels i was manipulated and now worried i will develop further anxiety after my friend using her family members situation to try and use it to demand updates. She states friend needs to handle that with her own therapist and that her even knowing im in labor would more then likely send her into a spiral regardless.

I was gentle in the message i sent friend that we both have a hard boundary and i understand not being comfortable watching my oldest and that i do have other childcare lined up.

Apparently my boundary is to much and now she is upset about not being in the inside circle (no one is but childcare and hubby), and not being able to help with the baby where she could take baby overnight (didnt need that or help with the oldest when we got home), so she would then be company to us and our guest.

Mil knows once we get home she is heading home. And that was her saying that not me asking.