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Elisabeth
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My childs fathers never been consistent physically, emotionally or financially towards her. Hes not seen her since the…

My childs fathers never been consistent physically, emotionally or financially towards her. Hes not seen her since the end of 2021 and he stopped responding to texts over a year ago. Randomly hes messaged me. Saying hes sorted now and give me money regularly..?

As if i cant finance my daughter without his money. Not asked how she is. Not explained nothing no sorry nothing!!

If you were in my position what would you do? Shes 3 now very clued up. Hes let her down countless times. Ive given this guy chance after chance, helped an supported him and still he turns his back on her ( along with his other kids with different women)

Hes not been a consistent father for over 10 years as thats how old his oldest son is....

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juliemcallister

Julie-Anne Мама четверых детей

Do whats best for you and your daughter f him he left no sorry you don't just get to take a time out... Then come back when your sorted. Not how parenting works he has missed most of the hard work and to be honest the money get it off him it's her right and yours he should pay for his own child if he's one of them that blames you for taking it get a bank account for your daughter and put it all in that when he gives it to you then it's hers and she can decide if she wants it in the future or not and let him see her on your terms your rules! If he messes it up then never again he will only have himself to blame but that way he can't blame you when she's older xx

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ms_lizzy

ElisabethМама дочки (3 года)

Thanks. This is what hes done he just springs up randomly mainly when hes in a relationship he wants to show his new girlfriend his doting father act. Its such a hard one. A few messages every several months to "show hes tried".

Ive not heard anything since i made this post so gods knows.

Im stuck because either way its going to effect her xx

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kelsey234

KelseyМама двоих (1 год, 4 года)

I think you need to think what's best for your daughter long term, it's hard for us to comment as we don't know the whole situation but I wouldnt really take money into account as sad as it is but rather is her having a relationship with him beneficial for her. Do you want her to grow up not knowing who he is, is what you need to ask yourself. Is he that bad a person to cut him off completely, that's the kind of questions I'd be debating xxx

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ms_lizzy

ElisabethМама дочки (3 года)

Thankyou. The sad thing is she would probably grow up not knowing him because hes that inconsistent! He seems to have a pattern of contact, when hes in a relationship he wants to know but when hes single hes "having a hard time" xx

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kelsey234

KelseyМама двоих (1 год, 4 года)

@ms_lizzy yeah then if you think it's best for her if he's going to keep coming in and out of her life maybe it is better to stop contact. Just be careful on here asking questions like this as there's a lot of single mums that are very bitter about their children's fathers not being involved and will tell you just to get rid. You definitely need to think if she will be sad when she's older not knowing who her dad is etc. Xx

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ms_lizzy

ElisabethМама дочки (3 года)

@kelsey234 thankyou! I think i may meet up with on my own and have a conversation. See where it goes xx

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