Партнер боится стать отцом: как справиться с потерей, горем и ненавистью после переезда и разрыва?
My partner is scared to be a dad and basically is lost within himself… he moved out and I’m not sure how to cope.. really don’t have many ppl to talk to or friends.. idk how to cope or what to think. I still want to encourage him but also I’m grieving and feel like I hate him and feel abandoned
M0MM·
First off -All of your feelings are valid !
Secondly, I’ve learned not to just process things the way I see and feel. From my perspective, I take into consideration the person and who they were raised by, which morals were ingrained into this human & what type of affection did the receive or if they were neglected, how they perceived the world and others around them.
Next, His decision and his choice has NOTHING to do with you and everything to do with him.
Lastly, I suggest you take these emotions and use them. Don’t bottle them up. Feel them, journal or play the guitar (whichever safe outlet you usually use) and reflect. Ask yourself for clarity. Your own type of clarity is all you need to make the next move in your life.
You are wonderful. You are worthy & you have young women that love you and see life through you. Show them what it’s about, girly!
Jennah ··
Мама четверых детей
I def think of all of that. It’s so many factors in the mix and I’m not sure what is needed. I’m observing and encouraging at the moment. He was neglected and scared he will be like his father… I took my traumas another way than he did although we have the same attachment style we didn’t go through the exact experiences tho similar. I hear what he wants to be but I see he doesn’t know how to be that I guess… I have written down my hurt my anger and my understanding. I’m grieving and not sure to let go or hold on. He says he will help financially but I feel like that’s all he is capable of as of now…. And it’s hurtful.
Jennah ··
Мама четверых детей
I feel totally gas lit
M0MM··
trust your gut
Jessica·
Мама троих детей
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