Как помочь 12-летнему сыну преодолеть страх перед уколами?
I need advice how to help my 12 year old with his fear of needles. Gettings shots is a nightmare. He had to have bloodwork done yesterday and they almost had to send us down in the hospital to strap him in a bed. I'm at a loss. 😭
Mish·
You can’t force someone to get over a fear like that. The only thing you can do is offer comfort.
I used to pass out during shots and my siblings made fun of me and shamed me for it. It didn’t help. I wish someone would’ve talked to me calmly and offered a distraction rather than trying to talk me out of my fear.
scream.queen··
I never said I was trying to force him to get over it. Talking calmly and trying to comfort him and distract him only makes things worse.
Mish··
I didn’t mean you specifically. More of a general you.
DragonTrainer1·
I'm sorry. With brody I just hold his hand and have him look at me the whole time he puts his head to mine and we talk about what kind of treat he wants right after we leave. And since he was little we go get ice cream or a treat of his choice. He's still scared and he has cried most times but he let's them draw blood or get a shot.
JenX··
@scream.queen could they give him something to relax him? Even like magnesium or something?
Ceronious··
@scream.queen ugh! My kid was exactly the same. I'd be all crying watching them hold down my tiny child while she screams. She grew out of the physical lashing out. Now at 10 the nurse can keep her occupied.
scream.queen··
His doctor is actually prescribing him magnesium for his migraines.
JenX·
Is it partially the pain of the needle piercing the skin or the idea of the needle in general? They can numb the area first. Blocking his view might also help.
scream.queen··
It's both. He has to be shown how big/small the needles are and how far they go in before he even let's anyone close to him. I wonder if they could do numbing cream like when they put in IV in. I'll have to ask about that next time. The nurse at the doctors office yesterday was amazing. He was laughing and joking with her the whole time she was checking vitals but when she brought in the shots it was game over. She was so patient and caring with him she talked to him through the whole and showed him what she was doing and telling him. She used a shot guard on him with a bunch of little pokey things to try to distract him but it still took almost 10 minutes to do.
Ceronious·
There's a little bee that straps on their wrist and vibrates. It helped my oldest when she was very fearful. She'd kick the nurses and hide under the table. But the little bee helped. You'd have to Google it. Our children's hospital has them.
scream.queen··
Thank you, I'm going to have to look that up!
mybabybear ·
Мама сына (8 лет)
I have this fear. I feel better when the nurse builds rapport with me first. If they seem slightly rude and then come at me with a needle my brain tells me to run out of there and I panic. I need someone nice and who will wait before the needle is inserted. Usually I freak out the most right before it gets inserted when they’re walking towards me. I usually yell “WAIT!” And my brain calms down when they actually do and don’t get irritated. I do a few deep breaths and then let them do it.
Mama Coco·
I used to be like this too. My mom come up with this interesting method where she’d pinch me as hard as she could on the opposite arm. It was very distracting and I didn’t feel the needles.
I’ve heard great things about the bee thing @mrseoc, mentioned. I’ve thought about trying it with my oldest as he’s very fearful as well.
My oldest reacts more to people holding him down even though he’s afraid of the needles. It took one amazing nurse to “cure” him of his fear and let me tell you I almost started crying with how amazing it was to watch her. She sat there and was patient with him, talked to him, let him show her what he was doing on his tablet. She was very slow in her movements and talked through everything before she did it. Except the actual shot, that she snuck in when he wasn’t looking and they both were talking. It was over and done with before he could react and he learned that day it didn’t need to be an awful process. He’s been much better since even though he still doesn’t like getting shots.
Elizabeth Hebert·
For Jacob we have to use a needle guard and blindfold.
🪴📚·
Hopefully as he gets older it gets better. I still have a fear of needles but not as bad as when I was a child. Taking deep breathes and looking away helps me now.