Yikes, why the attack on me? 😅 I do write people off though, and sometimes it's absolutely necessary. As we grow we shed things and people that don't reflect who we are at that given time, and I think it's perfectly ok. I also think "friend" is a loaded word, and I don't assign that word to everyone I talk to.
If we are friends, I would more than likely know of your struggles, but keep in mind, I can't be strong enough to carry the friendship 100% of the time. As a human, I need attention too, I need to feel valued in the relationship too. Have you ever been friends with someone who ALWAYS had a lot going on? It can drain you, and when you're the only one in the friendship with energy, *sighs* how do you recharge?
Personally, I think it's all fine, sometimes you truly do yourself a favor by letting go, or sometimes you'll do that person a favor by letting go. Now my gripe is, remember that you WERE once friends and don't drag that person through the mud because the friendship ended. Whatever took place during the friendship, stay within the confines of that bubble.
Last thing, I surely do hope you enjoyed my mini novel, lol
We all have a lot going on. And some people manage differently. I have some that we have 100% grown apart. And I no longer talk to them at all. But there are the friends I don’t see for ages and when I do see them it is like nothing changed. It’s easy to be around them and talk to them. I have friends from kindergarten still. I send them Christmas cards and ‘hello’ cards.
I did have a friend tell me I was neglecting her. I had two jobs and took the bus. I was trying to get my life on par. But she didn’t like that I wasn’t seeing her everyday or calling her everyday. She was supposed to be my best friend. But not supporting me at a hard time was the end to that. That’s when I got this mindset where I don’t have requirements for friendship. I don’t hold a standard. I’m here. And will always be.
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So Royal·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Yikes, why the attack on me? 😅 I do write people off though, and sometimes it's absolutely necessary. As we grow we shed things and people that don't reflect who we are at that given time, and I think it's perfectly ok. I also think "friend" is a loaded word, and I don't assign that word to everyone I talk to.
If we are friends, I would more than likely know of your struggles, but keep in mind, I can't be strong enough to carry the friendship 100% of the time. As a human, I need attention too, I need to feel valued in the relationship too. Have you ever been friends with someone who ALWAYS had a lot going on? It can drain you, and when you're the only one in the friendship with energy, *sighs* how do you recharge?
Personally, I think it's all fine, sometimes you truly do yourself a favor by letting go, or sometimes you'll do that person a favor by letting go. Now my gripe is, remember that you WERE once friends and don't drag that person through the mud because the friendship ended. Whatever took place during the friendship, stay within the confines of that bubble.
Last thing, I surely do hope you enjoyed my mini novel, lol
RayOfMySunShine··
I understand where you are coming from.
We all have a lot going on. And some people manage differently. I have some that we have 100% grown apart. And I no longer talk to them at all. But there are the friends I don’t see for ages and when I do see them it is like nothing changed. It’s easy to be around them and talk to them. I have friends from kindergarten still. I send them Christmas cards and ‘hello’ cards.
I did have a friend tell me I was neglecting her. I had two jobs and took the bus. I was trying to get my life on par. But she didn’t like that I wasn’t seeing her everyday or calling her everyday. She was supposed to be my best friend. But not supporting me at a hard time was the end to that. That’s when I got this mindset where I don’t have requirements for friendship. I don’t hold a standard. I’m here. And will always be.
So Royal··
Мама двоих (младенец)
I understand where you're coming from. We just have to be the best friend we can to someone, give them our offerings and see what they choose
RayOfMySunShine··
exactly. I think that’s the best that we can do.