Что делать с бабушкой и дедушкой сына?

That’s exactly what I said ! You would think after not seeing him for 2 years and not being involved at all in my second child’s life at all that you would have some respect and try to follow the simple things that are asked but I’m so over it. I’m glad I’m not overreacting.

nope ! No mom can over react about respecting your boundaries. If you feel the boundary is necessary then it needs to be respected period .!

I like how you put that! That is absolutely right too. I’m glad you ladies responded I definitely feel better about my decision and I hate because it only hurts my son but I’ve tried to many times.

I told her that once when she had my son around the person I asked her not have him around and she tried to justify it and then said ok and he comes back and tells me she was at the house and grandma said not to tell me.

oh fuck no definitely wouldn't be sending my kid there then.

@hakunamafuckitall, I agree ! I told my husband and he was like maybe she didn’t know she was coming but even if why wouldn’t she call me and tell me. Why tell my son not to tell me. He isn’t a liar and I think she just doesn’t have respect for me at this point.

I completely agree ! And I’m so glad that everyone understands and don’t think I’m overreacting. My husband doesn’t think it’s necessary I think it’s just because it’s his family and he feels bad for them but I’m over the disrespect.

I’m sorry it sucks not having others to actually depend on to do what’s asked of them.

absolutely not ! She was only willing to get my oldest child anyway and not the other 2, never attempted to make a connection with them. Came over twice since she came back in my oldest son life. But he was only going because he would ask to go or she was asking can he go and I let him to make him happy but I’m so over it.

I would be too! I’d tell him up front why and that it is important to stand your ground. It’s a great teaching experience to hold other accountable on their actions.

I completely agree! We talked a little about it but I’m going to really explain it and I hope he takes it well and understands completely that it’s not because of him. It’s consequences when you don’t listen in life and that’s what happening here.

No he doesn’t have to go. He’s homeschooled and I’m a sahm. He goes because he wants to go over there and I tried to be nice because I don’t want to disappoint him or upset him but like I told him last night I can’t continue to put you in a situation like that where she will not listen and out your health at risk and want to continue to do things her way. I’m definitely not comfortable with sending him anymore but I hated the look on his face and I wanted more opinions on the subject to see if I was overreacting or not. I’ve tried many of times even threaten he isn’t be allowed back and she still did the Same thing. So I stopped communicating with them and left it at that.

I love your comment! I am definitely not letting them see them again especially after talking to all of you ladies , I thought maybe I was overreacting but I see I’m not and I’m ok now with that decision.

When you make your expectations/boundaries clear & people repeatedly disrespect them then it’s time to cut those people off. You are the parent and know what’s best for the kid(s). If it’s important to you that they maintain a relationship then they can have a relationship under your supervision. If that’s a problem for them then that is a red flag & they can go. 👋🏼 There’s a difference between you let my kid stay up 45 mins past bedtime & you let my kid be around people that I find dysfunctional/problematic. As the parent we have the say as to what is best.

I really appreciate this comment! Everything you said is 100% correct and I completely agree with. She’s sees nothing wrong with nothing she does and tries justify everything instead of just being like I messed up and I’m sorry. I don’t want her in my home and I don’t have time to set aside for her anywhere else for her to see him. She couldn’t respect me and my wishes I can’t go out of my way to make sure she can see my son. Like you said it’s time to cut her off. I won’t continue to be disrespected.

I love it !! I agree I try to be nice and think of my son feelings but I let so much slide way too many times and I can’t keep allowing it.