Been a minute since I was on this app!! But I need some advice mamas🥺 my friend is getting mad at me because I don’t…

From a different perspective...is she suicidal at all?? I mean most people that are don't mention their mental health repeatedly but you just never know during these times. I would maybe set aside time for coffee once a month so she can know to expect the time you guys have together and if that doesn't work for her then gently suggest counseling because something is definitely off. A grown woman should not be demanding attention from her friend like this. I would be exhausted of her already if I had to put up with a friend like this that didn't have a legitimate reason for this behavior besides acting like a child.

She must not have kids because a person with kids would be understanding of your situation and that you can't just drop everything and hang out with her.

Thank you everyone for your suggestions!!! She ended up apologizing later in the day for how she was acting thankfully. I’m seeing her Wednesday for lunch so I’m going to talk to her more then😊

She needs mental health help. Please suggest that to her or guide her to find some.

I think you handled the conversation well. You were very straight forward and set firm boundaries. How old is she? She sounds annoying 😬. Does she not have a family of her own? I mean even if she doesn’t, an adult should be able to understand these things. Perhaps there is something going on with her. Maybe tell her that even though you’re not able to always hang out, you’re always there for support/to talk. She might open up about what she is going through.

Wow, she’s needy. And really about 2 weeks?? That’s so odd. Adults have families to tend to and many of us rarely see our friends bc of it and understand. She needs more friends clearly. But on the other hand, is she always like this? Maybe she does need some mental help and reaching out to you. Might be something to make time for!

I understand your frustration but it seems like she is genuinely in a bad place mentally right now. It probably didn’t help that you kept mentioning how much everything else was more important. I think she needs you and you should be glad she is reaching out to let you know this instead of trying to deal on her own. I know there’s therapy and meds ect for a reason but sometimes when someone is going through it mentally they don’t think they even deserve that kind of help. I know I didn’t when I was going through it. I’m not saying bow down to her every need as we are all adults. Just sometimes people just need their people.

People who can’t be by themselves scare me. They’ll forever need others to make them happy. She should not be depending on you to help her cope with her mental health. You’re a mother and wife with other obligations as mentioned. She sounds like a kid

How old is she? This is just so odd to me. Like something is very, very off. All she’s focused on is herself which does make me worry about her mental health(as she keeps bringing it up) but at the same time I don’t think that it’s fair how bad she is trying to make you feel about not seeing her. I honestly don’t think that you have done anything wrong at all. But like another user said I would maybe try to meet up with her and talk to her and see how she is truly doing and if she maybe needs to talk to a professional.

From a different perspective...is she suicidal at all?? I mean most people that are don't mention their mental health repeatedly but you just never know during these times. I would maybe set aside time for coffee once a month so she can know to expect the time you guys have together and if that doesn't work for her then gently suggest counseling because something is definitely off. A grown woman should not be demanding attention from her friend like this. I would be exhausted of her already if I had to put up with a friend like this that didn't have a legitimate reason for this behavior besides acting like a child.

She must not have kids because a person with kids would be understanding of your situation and that you can't just drop everything and hang out with her.

Yeah, I would have no tolerance for this. What is she? 12? This is ridiculous. I understand she may be going through a hard time, but maybe she should see a therapist instead of trying to guilt trip a friend with a child and family to take care of. My advice is to stop the conversation because she’s clearly not going to get it.