Controversial topic ahead:
How do u ladies feel about masks on kids all day at school while playing sports etc? I’m not an anti masker in general but I am sort of anti mask for small children in school 5-7 hours a day. What are we teaching our children right now? That physical touch is dangerous? Don’t hug/high five cause u could get sick and die? What’s happening to this world right now? Thoughts. I hope this doesn’t make some think different of me but I needed to see others thoughts. Open for a good discussion here
My kiddo is almost 9, so we've just been very open about the science and what is recommended to stay virus free. As we learn more as a world about this virus, we adjust practices. We don't have to be afraid when we go out, but we wear a good quality mask with a filter, we always have hand sanitizer, we stay outdoors, don't go into big crowds. We've shown her the virus trends (our state has an amazing covid website) and how our area has more virus activity than my mom's county, so we adjust what we do here. My mom's county has such low viral activity you don't need to use many precautions.
We just teach facts and her stress level is pretty low. But she's almost 9. I really feel for all you mamas with really little ones who don't understand.
Here in Melbourne when we had to wear mask (we no longer have to wear a mask other than at hospitals, and nursing homes as we haven't had a local covid case in a while now) people under the age of 12 did not have to wear a mask and in people over 12 didn't have to wear them when to PE, or any active activities. I don't believe it is right to make children wear them when doing PE. I am a very bad asthmatic and found it extremely hard to breathe in them especially with the hot weather. I hardly went anywhere in the summer when we had to wear a mask, I was so scared I would have a asthma attack because I couldn't breathe properly.
Wow well that’s great there hasn’t been new cases! Looking like it’s going well there! I mean u hear stories of kids fainting while doing physical activity wearing masks it’s scary. I’d also have a panic attack on top of that!
My kids and me will be wearing masks in public going forward. When they are 18 they can make their own decisions.
This is a total aside, but I was listening to a meditation the other night that was recorded in 2020, and the teacher was talking about the stress of "doomscrolling" on the internet and turning off the computer after reading his 18th article about WHEN and IF a vaccine would be possible.
And I teared up, thinking back to those scary months when there was nothing in sight to protect us besides Purell and a mask. The uncertainty of it all.
My gosh. We've been through a lot! There's so much hope on the horizon compared to all that. <3
@professor.hashbrown always have! I remember it really spiking with the OJ Simpson trial and has stayed there. Everything has been "breaking news" ever since!
Are your little's required to wear masks?!
Obviously I'm in the UK so different laws, but only children aged 11+ are required to wear masks in school here
It will be different by state here...like no one has to in Tx, but others do and its all different. Welcome to complicated USA 🤣
@ss3mom, our kids don’t wear masks and we’re slowly getting back to normal now!
I want to thank everyone who is having this discussion with me right now. I think it’s need helpful to hear your opinions and how your children are making out and look no one is getting all mad or upset about it. Thanks again for the helpful words ladies!!
Thanks love! I really do try to explain to my children, without fear, that masks are important right now and hopefully we won’t need to wear them much longer and they just need to hold out a little while longer ya know? Thanks for letting me know about the resources available
@massgirl sorry I forgot to tag u
When you explain it to him don't say it sucks or be negative. Stay positive. Tell him it keeps him and his friends safer. I wouldn't give a timeline either, "like it will be over soon" (things look good but we don't necessarily know that) at kindergarten they can barely grasp a week vs. a month
@massgirl, haha you’re right and I really do try my hardest. Sometimes I slip up but hey I’m only human. Hope u and the fam are doing well!!
I just want to add that if a child is exhibiting fear about that virus or you are finding it hard to explain to them there are plenty of resources out there now to help. My daughter watched the sesame street specials at the beginning of the pandemic, there's "operation ouch" on netflix that did a special, several books and websites as well....like a said before kids adapt very easily but if the adult in their life has a poor attitude about wearing the masks then they will likely mimick that behavior as well. There are studies out there that were done during the summer about mask wearing and exercise as well.
I agree with this. Kids will mirror a parent's stress and anxiety, too. I tell my daughter all the time I really respect how she's plugging away like her great grandparents did during WWII. That this is going to end, the vaccine is in sight, we're more than halfway through. That there's so much we can do. Trying to bolster her spirits.
@jenx, yes I know they do that’s why I do make sure to not say too much around them regarding some things. They def know most of what is happening but again they are young, 6&8 so I pay extra attention when discussing things with my husband when they are around!
I think there’s a way to teach about mask wearing and being conscientious towards other’s health without being fearful of germs and touch. But I think that since we didn’t know much about COVID to begin with, it was the right decision to be more cautious over the past year. As we’re learning more, there’s a lot of data pointing to it not being spread by touch and surfaces, just through the air. And that’s where we can start educating kids that we’re just not spreading germs with our mouth by wearing a mask, we’re protecting others.
If my son were in school now, I would prefer my son wear his mask in school and at all activities with his schoolmates. I would not sign him up for any extra curricular that didn’t require masking. He starts kindergarten this next school year and I’m on pins and needles waiting to see what our state it going to do with public schools and masking.
All that being said, I understand there are situations with younger kids and kids with disabilities especially that make wearing a mask challenging. We had to work with our OT to get my son to wear his and it’s also made speech therapy more difficult in some ways. I wish schools had the resources/ability to help families who would like their kids in school but have a hard time with masks due to their disability. Our OT was instrumental in making sure my son was able to be out and about this past year, since if he couldn’t wear his mask he wouldn’t have been allowed anywhere.
Despite his initial resistance, he’s fine with his mask now. It’s just second nature like wearing shoes. He even forgets to take it off when we’re doing eating therapy, which is the only place he’s allowed to be unmasked and is the only one in the room that is unmasked.
Wow what a strong little kiddo u have there!! I know that most autistic support children aren’t required to wear masks in our school if they won’t tolerate them. But the teachers then have to wear shields which I think those are amazing so they can see the teachers face/mouth
@ss3mom, I wish that were the case everywhere, and some kiddos don’t have an official diagnosis but still have sensory struggles and need help. I was reading an article yesterday about disability rights in schools that just really got me thinking: is it right to remove kids from the classroom and isolate them at home when they really need their services from the school and those same people could work with them on mask wearing or other accommodations that would fall under their disability rights?
Thank you for saying so about my oldest. He’s been a trooper, in addition to the pandemic we’ve moved twice since Oct 2019 and he’s not one to like changes. Now only if we can get my little guy to understand and comply with masking as he turns 2!
Probably 15-20% wear masks here anymore. The kids in our very small town are always walking around and at school with no masks. Have been since Tx removed the mandate...we wear ours in stores but when he goes to school this fall I bet he doesn't....
@professor.hashbrown, haha I know exactly what u mean about being “that asshole”
@professor.hashbrown I worry about someone who is stressed and anxious kicking the crap out of me or a family member if we get too close without one on. I only have a couple if relatives who aren't vaccinated, but we ALL continue to wear masks out for those around us and so we don't bring it back home to our kids.
@ss3mom maybe they still are at schools (my kid hasn't started)...but the weekly ones from the city stopped posting about a month after it lifted. Yeah, Texas is different...everyone here really likes their individual freedoms and are pretty selfish and uncaring about them.
My kiddo is almost 9, so we've just been very open about the science and what is recommended to stay virus free. As we learn more as a world about this virus, we adjust practices. We don't have to be afraid when we go out, but we wear a good quality mask with a filter, we always have hand sanitizer, we stay outdoors, don't go into big crowds. We've shown her the virus trends (our state has an amazing covid website) and how our area has more virus activity than my mom's county, so we adjust what we do here. My mom's county has such low viral activity you don't need to use many precautions.
We just teach facts and her stress level is pretty low. But she's almost 9. I really feel for all you mamas with really little ones who don't understand.
So awesome they way you’re handling it with your daughter. I wish more would do it that way!! Keep up the good work love
Kids spread germs...kids also adapt very easily. Obviously we're not straight up teaching our children that physical touch is dangerous in normal settings but right now it is. Things have been improving but we were in a pandemic. I think parents have forgotten that it will be way more traumatic to know that a friend, teacher, coach, teammate, parent or whoever died from covid-19 than wearing a mask for five hours or whatever.
And everyone wants to beat the drum about how covid is 99.7% survival rate for kids. BUT they don't want to talk about the kids with multi system inflammatory disease who end up with heart problems, vision issues, headaches, clotting issues, constant fatigue. That's probably for life. What's a mask for a few more months until a vaccine is available? That's nothing. It's mindset. We're through the hard part now.
I'm definitely all for wearing masks everywhere and anywhere. I definitely get what you're saying though. However, I'd rather be safe than sorry. Masks have proved to be effective. And I've personally seen less transmission of illnesses due to mask wearing. My neighbor is a pediatric nurse and she's told me multiple times that their office is practically empty since the pandemic started (all thanks to mask wearing). My son wears a mask to school and they have explained to the students several times that they are wearing masks due to covid and when things do get back to normal (whenever that is) they will no longer be required to wear masks. I think it's important for schools to stress the fact that they're wearing masks due to covid. I know it's difficult for the younger kids to understand but this too shall pass.
Yes I agree. I will continue to wear a mask and have my kids wear a mask it just makes me sad for them ya know? Def less illness in the school and all around! Hope you’re doing well momma miss y and we need to get together as soon as we can!!
My son doesn't mind masks he never complains when he has to wear it and I think before covid if kids wore mask in school during flu season that more kids would stay healthy. My son has struggled since birth with all respiratory illnesses and we always end up in the hospital and now with mask for the younger kids less kids are missing school because germs are not being passed as much.
Totally agree with this. My daughter has never complained about a mask. We had virtually no flu this year. That's food for thought.
See I wish my son didn’t complain but he does. He’s asked to stay home and be remote because he hates wearing the mask all day. They are also sectioned off around their desks. So it begs the question are both necessary? So my choices are to keep him home and further his social isolation or have him go to school ans wear a mask all day. Right now he is in school with his mask on but it just sucks for them ya know? He’s also 6 years old started kindergarten this year. It’s amazing they’ve learned anything this year. But I’m happy to report he has so I supposed I’ve made the right choice. It’s just so hard to tell what damage we are doing to these kids long term ya know?
@jenx, yes I know the stats on the flu but do we even know how true that stat is ya know? Believe me I know less kids are sick and there’s def less transfer of colds/flus etc which is definitely a plus to all this! Happy your daughter is ok with the masks but I’m sure a lot aren’t ya know?
my son JUST brought this to my attention yesterday, he came home saying he sometimes didn't like playing at recess cause he has to wear his mask. I don't feel that that is okay so I messaged his teacher about it. I don't feel like they should have to wear the masks outside especially since it's getting hotter it probably makes it so much harder for them to breathe
I agree. If they are running around outside they should get a break from them.
@ss3mom yeah, I think so too! Other than that though he has no issue wearing it. I do have to explain to him from time to time why he has to wear it though because he's like "why do I have to wear it and when can I go without it"
Playing and sports, nope I dont feel that's right, IF its a requirement that they wear a mask during this activites, then activities shouldn't be taking place at all. I think that's too much stress on their breathing.
Now wearing them in general is different, we are teaching them not to fear things, but to care for others and themselves during this time, its a percaution, as simple as washing your hands.
@ss3mom well sure, but as you stated "if parents are fearful" it's on US, not the government to help our children understand this madness. It's our responsibility as individuals and parents to take care of ourselves and our children during this time.
@witchyxgardeningxbitch, yes I get that but it’s hard for parents not to be fearful when that’s all we hear ya know?
@ss3mom I get it, but that's your mindset, of course we are all fearful in this one way or another, I personally do not allow my children to see the side of me that could cause panic for them for the sake of them. When it comes to discussions over this with them it is about what is it, theres no "the government's out to get us" "it's not real" conspiracy theorists type of stuff, it's the virus itself. I try to keep it all common sense based for my kids.
As adults, we have to accept this! I mean yeah it's hard but this is happening, we need to stop looking at the bad part and look at glkf part that is literally unfolding us as we speak with the vaccination!
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I just want to add that if a child is exhibiting fear about that virus or you are finding it hard to explain to them there are plenty of resources out there now to help. My daughter watched the sesame street specials at the beginning of the pandemic, there's "operation ouch" on netflix that did a special, several books and websites as well....like a said before kids adapt very easily but if the adult in their life has a poor attitude about wearing the masks then they will likely mimick that behavior as well. There are studies out there that were done during the summer about mask wearing and exercise as well.