Okay moms am I wrong in this situation!? So my boyfriend and I got a house with his brother and girlfriend. Our sons…
Okay moms am I wrong in this situation!? So my boyfriend and I got a house with his brother and girlfriend. Our sons share a room and they are just 3 months apart so they can fit the same clothes and shoes. They never buy their son anything and usually wears my sons things. I honestly didn’t mind at first but she doesn’t help wash the clothes or nothing. It’s like we’re buying clothes and stuff for both boys and I’m kind of fed up. My son got a lot of nice clothes for Christmas and I see her putting her son in them and it made me mad because she literally put her son in his brand new clothes and not the old clothes that were also hanging in the closet. On top of that my son hasn’t even gotten a chance to wear the stuff so I decided to say something. I put together a box of my sons old clothes I didn’t want anymore and I gave them to her and said
“you can have these for Aden but for now on you guys have to start buying him more clothes and shoes he can’t keep wearing Asiahs things.” She got mad and told my boyfriend and his brother and now they’re saying I’m selfish and I’m “weird for tripping off of clothes” his family is also mad at me and making post on Facebook about me. but my family and I both buy my son nice things so yes I’m irritated when I see someone’s kid in a outfit I just bought or brand new $50 shoes that my son can’t even fit yet. I love their son he’s like my nephew but I would like for my only kid to enjoy the things I buy for him before another kid does. It’s not our responsibility to take care of their sons wardrobe but my boyfriend doesn’t seem to get where I’m coming from.
Mandy·
You're not wrong at all. Just tell your boyfriend if roles were reversed he would be irritated too. Like what if his brother wore his clothes from the mall straight from the shopping bag...maybe they're in a financial situation where they can't afford new clothes for him, if that's the case have your bf buy them a gift card to Carter's or wherever so she can pick out her own clothes ( I would be Petty and out my son in the clothes that she buys too 😂).
Mandy··
@ajaecymone184 that would piss me off to no end. And idk how anyone is backing them up of what you're saying is true. I would be so embarrassed to not be providing my child anything they needed. Are they using it for drugs or spending their own money on themselves?? It doesn't make any sense.
Ajaecymone··
I honestly have no idea because we all buy our own food and things but they never have any food. They literally eat out and buy themselves designer clothes and stuff. His mom told me “why does she need to buy clothes if they wear the same size and there’s clothes in the closet already” like at this point they are just refusing to understand my point of view.
Q··
Aht Aht !! At this point they have their priorities Messed up and are taking advantage of you ! personally I wouldn’t be sharing anything if they have that mindset, let them learn to provide necessities. If u wanna give the child clothes to be nice to THE CHILD but do so with boundaries. Stop letting her have a free for all with YOUR childs belongings. That’s not even fair to your child to have to share clothes when the other childs parents are 100 percent capable of buying clothes but CHOOSE not to. That’s NEGLECT !
JenX·
I completely understand why you're upset. She was rude to put your son's new clothes on her son, especially when he hasn't worn them yet. She's taking advantage of your good nature and should be embarrassed, she isn't the wronged party. Especially when she doesn't help out much either. Hopefully it blows over, it was also very ignorant of her to involve the extended family and make it a taking sides thing. Ugh. Family drama. It sucks.
Ajaecymone··
She’s definitely taking advantage because she makes good money so it’s not a financial issue preventing them from buying their son clothes. I think they are just so used to us buying everything they don’t feel a need to.
Angela·
No way I would be mad too! I would put all his stuff in your closet. They are all jus ridiculous!
The EK 💋·
You’re not wrong. It’s one thing to share clothes, it’s a whole other thing to put brand new outfits on her son that belong to your son. It is not your responsibility to clothe her child. You’ve gone above and beyond so far with sharing, giving her a box of clothes, etc. Secondhand clothes are pretty cheap at goodwill, so there’s no excuse for them using your son’s brand new clothes and then calling you names when you say something. Your boyfriend needs to have your back on this.
Vee··
Мама двоих (2 года, 11 лет)
Can you belive the nerve of that woman to take brand new clothes that dont belong to her kid and do that i would be mad tooo unbelivable what a bitch !!!!!
Ajaecymone··
His mom told me “why does she need to buy clothes for her son if they wear the same size and there’s clothes in the closet already” her logic is so stupid too me they are just refusing to understand my perspective at this point
The EK 💋··
Yeah that makes NO sense at all. I can’t believe they’re just expecting you to buy all the clothes. Wtf.
Icebergahead·
Мама сына (9 лет)
Yikes this living situation will bring up a lot of issues. Yes, this would bother me. A lot! But I am a private person and could not live (unless dyer needs) with another family, brings a lot of friction.
Ajaecymone··
I agree! Definitely never again. The lease couldn’t end soon enough
Jasmine·
Мама троих детей
No way. Honestly it comes down to your son deserves nice things and deserves his own things. It’s not fair on him.
Dontspankme·
As everyone said, nope you’re not wrong girl!
Vee·
Мама двоих (2 года, 11 лет)
She need to get her kid stuff stop living off of ya the kids need thier own rooms and you kid needs his own stuff even in pre k they got every kid its own cubby for thier things to make them feel they are unique and special if thats the case ya playing why all classroom dont share clothes they all the same age ! No everyone needs thier own identaty style and space that family all wrong you right
Linden·
Nope, I'd be PISSED too! THIS is EXACTLY why I can't live with anyone besides the 2 I'm legally obligated to. Hell, I'd have seperate houses and visit if my hubs would allow it. 🤷♀️🤣 I LOVE bein alone, probably TOO much so. I live for long silences! I think it's cause I'm adhd and OCD, my brain is ALWAYS on, I TREASURE the times I'm actually able to get peace.
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Мама троих детей
She’s crossing so many boundaries but I’m glad you’re finally letting her know she’s crossing them!
Stevie Marie 👑·
Wow. You are definitely not wrong. I would never, ever, expect someone else to be responsible for clothing my kids. That's just wrong and selfish.