This isn't the place for this posr but i need to get it off my chest. Nobody needs to reply, you wont tell me anything…
This isn't the place for this posr but i need to get it off my chest. Nobody needs to reply, you wont tell me anything you probably haven't all told me before. TMI warning.
My OH is v highly strung and flips when things go wrong and i am becoming so anxious of his moods. Today he left for work and just as i too was leaving he phoned me saying he had forgot important papers and can i find them. I couldnt at first so he got angry, eventually i found them. Then immediately as i hung up i had to run the loo. And just now he couldn't find somerhig and started throwing everything around the house, blaming me. I told him he always puts things down in the most random places but he just got angry, and again i had to run the loo. Which funnily enough on the bathroom window sill i found what he was looking for (where he had left it). I dont know how much more anxiety my gut can take 😔 i walked out the house earlier which ive ever done because i felt like i was going to have a panic attack
Sara-Louise·
Мама двоих (4 года, 6 лет)
@stacey1991 I know it's not easy. I know others in similar situations and although I have given up hope that they'll leave their narcissistic abusive partner, I will always be around incase I'm needed. Because that's what they want. To exclude you from everyone so your totally alone.
The line 'It isn't all the time, their loving sometimes, it's not that bad'. Are all lines I hear and make me shudder. It's not normal right or what a loving supportive relationship should be. We all argue and have spats with our oh at times, but you should never have to be walking on egg shells or worried about their temper everyday. It's making my friend physically ill and she thinks she needs to stay for the kids when she needs to leave for the kids. God knows what their growing up thinking what 'normal' behaviour is.
S··
Мама сына (2 года)
I do worry about the things my LO might see, I dont want him to ever see me cry as a result of my OH but I know that that will most likely happen. I worry about what my OH will do if I go to be honest, I think he will drink himself into oblivion and so that makes me feel very responsible unfortunately.
Sara-Louise··
Мама двоих (4 года, 6 лет)
and I'm sure he makes you aware of what he'd 'do' if you left. Giving you guilt to deal with if you thought about leaving. I've heard it all hun. If you left for your son whatever he does to himself is not your responsibility nor concern. Never stay for that reason.
Sara-Louise·
Мама двоих (4 года, 6 лет)
I hope one day you get the courage and support you need to leave. I know we only get a snippet on here but every other post you refer to his abusive behaviour. Perhaps not physical but day after day, year after year it will wear you down & make you ill. It's also what your son is witnessing everyday. Think about him if not yourself.
S··
Мама сына (2 года)
Thank you. It isnt all the time, but like I said above I used to be so scared to please him and not say anything back but I did this time because I have a bit More strength now and I know I would be fine if I was by myself. I hate it because I know what I would say to my friends if it was happening to them but it's true what they say when they say it isnt so easy to leave 😔 thank you for your support though xxx
S·
Мама сына (2 года)
Thanks everyone, like I said you're not telling me anything new, but the more it carries on the more confident I feel about having to leave because the more he does it the less I have that "but I love him.." feeling.
I've been thinking it through logically today as I want to have a plan in my head should I need one, but thank you xxx
Sarah Kimpton ··
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
Please take some time out for yourself and sit and think. Think of the pros and cons of your relationship. Then make a decision. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm going through the same. I've registered with a housing association. As soon as suitable accommodation is available, I'm going. Keep your chin up xxx 💖
Beth ·
Мама дочки (4 года)
He’s grown and should know where he’s put things and if he’s lost something it’s down to him. Don’t feel responsible!
You shouldn’t feel anxious in your own home.
If it scares you I suggest leaving. Because to me it’s not healthy.
Domestic abuse can be verbal, physical and emotional
So what you are undergoing is domestic essentially xx
Tammy ·
Мама двоих (1 год, 2 года)
You shouldn't have to know where his everything is he's a grown arse man not your son. I hope one day you realise that your worth so much more. But until then I hope your ok. Xx