Maybe I’m crazy, maybe I’m overreacting, or maybe I’m completely 100% right and I’m questioning my brain. So, I’m gonna ask you ladies.
My husbands NP who is a female, who has only been seeing him for maybe a year or so, asked him for an estimate for a job that needs to be done at her home. Like, weird but okay, extra cash in our pocket. At first I was like eh... that’s a conflict of interest, and I felt weird about it. Then, she continued to text him, along with a picture of her daughter. And is texting him regular conversation. AM I CRAZY FOR NOT FU*CKING BEING COMFORTABLE WITH THIS?! 1. It’s inappropriate AFFFFF 2. It’s conflict of interest 3. It’s just not friggin okay. Period.
I’m completely uncomfortable. I told him this and he said there’s nothing to worry about and she’s just friendly but this women is just not sitting right with me. At all.
Edit: I’m not the wife that doesn’t allow him to have female friends, as long as I know about it or know them, but this doesn’t settle right.
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Def something going on. Don't add up. I would suspect the same thing. Sending a pic of her daughter is super personal
He gave me her phone number, I messaged her and shut it down. She said she didn’t mean anything by it and that she was just responding to him congratulating her on having the baby and I said it’s just not cool to be having personal convo with your whole ass patient when you have a family as well. Just pissed me off bad.
@mamatocam8516xo I would have contacted her and stepped between to manage the side job. I find that women tend to be more open to sharing about themselves than men and don't often mean anything by it. I can be that person who talks your ear off when I meet you but as far as texting goes, no, no pics and def line drawn. My DH works for men or women but we must both be comfortable, and if I'm not he will have me step up to help. The benefit is that we still get to make money while keeping our relationship safe. By saying hey, I will help with coordinating this you will find the tir intentions of the person. If they are serious about the job they will have no problem going through you. If they have ill intentions they will back peddle or say nevermind. You get to protect your family, while making money for them also...
I’m currently going through this right now. My husband works with this lady and says they’re just “coworkers” and she keeps texting him about “work things”. I wasn’t comfortable at first but I decided to let it be (bc I thought I could trust him) Anyways long story short it turned out that they’re conversations got deeper and I went off on him and told him how disappointing I am
Oh girl I’m so sorry that’s happened to you. :( I couldn’t imagine. Fortunately that’s not our case but if it ever were you bette believe I’d be packed up and gone!
Not normal at all and super unprofessional of her!
I’d be sending myself the screen shot sending it to her and be saying bitch wtf this won’t be happening again get someone else to do the job period 💯💯
I don't understand how HE doesn't find her actions unprofessional/inappropriate. As long as he continues on like everything is ok then there is no standard to be followed.
He’s sooooo naive, always has been. Like he doesn’t see what most people do, he’s super free spirited. I showed him what everyones saying and he’s like “okay Maybe it is weird... now what” like tell her it’s inappropriate and shut it the f down!
@mamatocam8516xo "now what?" Really? like who's feelings is he trying to protect here?
I hope you both work this out. Positive vibes🙏❤
@riasm85, he gave me her phone number, and said he’s not gonna do the job. I told him it’s not the fact she wanted a job done it’s the fact she sent pictures of her personal life to you. I’m not okay with that. You just don’t do that especially with someone who is involved in your medical care. Huge conflict.
Why does she even have his personal number? Shouldn’t they only be allowed the office number during work hours
That’s what I said. He said she has it because he was gonna do an estimate on her house. Which is all it was, which I already thought was unprofessional on her behalf. But then when she was sending pics to him I was like UH NO.
@mamatocam8516xo, wouldn’t he be risking his own job giving out his personal number sounds so unprofessional in so many ways on both party’s behalf, I have a medical history the size of a dictionary and still never have I had a drs personal number
I feel like a NP sending a picture of her kids to a patient is way out of line. The texting with regular conversation is too.
No way i would shut it down quick! If it’s about a side job then why do they need to talk about anything other than that? I’m not saying ur husband would do anything but who knows what her motive is.
I don’t think he ever would, but I don’t know her so therefore, I don’t trust the B. Apparently she has a husband but I only seen the pic of her kids she sent him. Like why??
@mamatocam8516xo, yea girl she’s shady! I had a Dr that would text me before I got with my husband first “checking on me” then having regular conversations I really thought he was friendly and needed someone to talk to until he hit on me. He was a really nice guy but not my type lol I just stopped replying.
I was really thinking about it 😂😂 not to be petty but to be like girl wtf
Sounds weird my aunt and her fiancé met because he was her NP it started out as them texting normal convos
That’s weird, and not professional. Maybe not the estimate thing because small talk happens between myself and my doctor and she knows where I work as well. But the texting and continuing conversations is a big 🚩🚩🚩🚩
The first part I could have understood it’s a job. But then personal text conversation not normal .. which would make the job part weird and uncomfortable.
By NP you mean nurse practitioner? Just making sure ... No no your definitely right and entitled to your feeling . I wouldn’t feel one bit comfortable with this either
Yeah Nurse Practitioner. He’s telling me I’m over reacting but I truly don’t think I am. I just wanted some input to make sure I’m not being a looney. I never ever feel like this.
@mamatocam8516xo, no I don’t think you are I think she’s being unprofessional ok so wanted an estimate still a little unprofessional it on the part where they started texting and she sent a picture is a big no
I’d be looking her up on FB, finding out her husband’s name and message him and tell him to keep his wife in check. That’s not cool at all.