So ladies my oldest is 12 her sperm donor i don’t even consider him her father my husband has raised her since she was 6 yrs old she has been going every other weekend to her fathers since she was 8 he never really spent time with her never been to any school event or anything basically just sees her when she’s there for maybe a hour or to because he either sleeping or work or just doesn’t bother he lives with his girlfriend and her parents I’ve always let her make her own choices I never speak bad about him in front of her since COVID started she stopped going over there because she has a younger brother and sister at home she just didn’t feel comfortable which I was fine with over the whole time she was home he called her twice that’s it didn’t even wish her a happy birthday she then went over there for a day then came home then a couple weeks ago she went over there for the whole weekend she told them like she told me she didn’t wanna stay there maybe a day then they obviously didn’t say anything about it but he made a big deal saying I’m keeping her from him which is not it at all I didn’t get into it with him because I told him it’s her choice she’s old enough to make her own decision so she texted him yesterday because it’s his weekend she said mom I’m gonna stay home and hang out with you guys I said ok that’s fine just text your father and tell him he never responded to her like ok I’ll see you another day nothing he basically ignored her message and I’m pissed I wanna say something to him then I don’t he made his bed so I wanna let him lay in it but like he made a big deal before because she doesn’t wanna go over there and begged her to come didn’t spend any time with her she sat in her room all weekend and now he just doesn’t acknowledge her me and him have a long history but he has three kids she’s the second child his son doesn’t like him and he just had a baby and basically pays no mind to my child and I know she’s hurt she told me she feels like he just doesn’t care because how he is with her am I wrong for not saying something or should I speak up I’ve always told him he has to be a real parent for years I’ve just got tired of it and now it’s at the point where he probably won’t see her at all because of his choices and I respect my daughters choice she just wants love and attention and she isn’t getting that there