Thoughts on waiting another year to start daughter in preschool.
Our district doesn’t have a spot at the moment. So we have to find a preschool ourselves. We applied to Headstart but we make too much money so lower income families get first spots. But both districts have her at the top of their waiting list above others because she needs/receives speech therapy therefore they want the grant money that comes along with her being enrolled. It’s just so frustrating. I feel that worth Covid we know nothing of what’s going on and I still don’t have a school for her at this point. But she could also benefit of waiting another year but it would also benefit her to go. I just don’t want to send her to school if it’s going to be super restrictive because of Ohio’s guidelines set for Covid. Am I wrong or selfish?! Also I fear then her brother and her will be in the same grade if I wait to send her. Which isn’t terrible but I feel comes with it’s own set of problems.
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Preschool, though helpful in the first years of school, is not required so it should not affect her going into Kindergarten. Can you afford to get her therapy done for her out of pocket rather than depending on school? If so that will help open up more options for you. Studies find that children who have early education tend to do better in the first three years of school but that the ones who don't catch up and often surpass them by 3rd grade. I would consider the pros and cons and personally I am making the choice not to send my 4 year old DD to preschool under the current circumstances. I am however, going mg to start an at home learning program with her and include her 2 year old sister. Learning comes on so many forms. I'm sure you will.come up with a good solution. The very best of wishes to you!! At the end if your family is kept safe I think that's all that matters.
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Thanks to all you ladies for the concern. I know it’s hard to help when you don’t have all the info. She has been getting speech therapy since age 2. It’s helped. She still needs some work but she has come a long way. We just had her last speech session almost 2 months ago. She has transitioned out of the early intervention program because she is to be starting school. So no speech this summer but I do similar things with her that the speech therapist did to help her. She is to resume speech in the fall while in school but that’s all up in the air because we have yet to secure a spot. So I will have to talk with them about our options. I do take her to the weekly play groups they hold as well where they have all the therapists there to interact with the kids. Those should be starting back up soon hopefully.
These are all the things that you should be doing! It sounds like she's on the right track. If she doesn't secure a spot even preschool part-time and the speech in the private sector will keep her on track until kindergarten. Also if there is a waiting list alway keep her on it and call to ask for her spot.
I’m sure you already know this, but please follow the advice of your doctors and speech pathologists and don’t listen to some of these commenters. Early intervention is important. I am shocked that people are advising you to wait until kindergarten and get help for her speech then if she still needs it. (If she needs it now, she’ll need it then.) How irresponsible of them considering they know nothing of your daughter’s needs.
@ekko, then what’s the point of this app if Moms can’t share opinions? You just shared yours. The original poster can make her own decision. She was just looking for opinions to help her make her decision. I hope people aren’t following a strangers words without any professional advice!
@2sweetie, The difference is an informed opinion versus an opinion not based on professional knowledge. I would hope people would follow the advice of professionals but that doesn’t always happen which is why it’s irresponsible to advise someone on something in which you are not trained in. Have a great day.
@ekko, I wasn’t offering professional advice. I never claimed to be a professional. I was giving my opinion as a fellow mom. I thought that’s what this app was for. I guess I was wrong. I’ll be on my way 😟
Thanks for all the input ladies! Really makes me weigh out the pros and cons!
You're welcome. I completely agree with 2sweetie. She has great input. Your daughter's speech will develop more over the next year and if, once she hits school age, she still need help then def. get it. In the meantime you can still get therapy through your peds by referral. Best of wishes!!! I'm sure she will surprise you!
Well she’s barely 3 so there’s no rush to get her into preschool. She can do pre-K at age 4. I don’t understand why you think she needs to be held back and go into the same grade as her brother. A lot of kids don’t have any schooling at all before kindergarten. I wanted to get my son into preschool a couple days a week so he can socialize and give me a break, but now is not a good time for non-essential schooling so I’m going to wait. My daughter is going into kindergarten so we have enough to worry about.
@tiera_shaye, yes but she’s barely 3 and her speech will be much more developed by age 5 when she starts kindergarten. Starting kindergarten is not dependent on when kids start preschool. Preschool is not mandatory and kids can start Kinder when they’re 5 regardless of if they’ve been to preschool or not. You don’t need to hold her back. You still have 2 years to get her ready. I actually don’t know many people who have put their kids in preschool other than myself and my sister, because of how expensive it is.
@2sweetie, gotcha. See where I live it’s more common for everyone to put their kids in preschool. The school districts even have them so people don’t have to pay. Same with some of the state funded ones. We have some as well that are private but nothing too crazy expensive. I didn’t realize how many people forego preschool in general. But it makes me feel better knowing that is an option. She has come so far with speech at home and using learning videos she is saying leaps and bounds more than she was 6 months ago. Which is great.
@tiera_shaye, oh I see. Don’t stress out about it. Trust me, there’s a ton of development that happens between ages 3-5 and you don’t want to pressure her. If she still needs help with speech at age 5 she can get it then. But many times once kids start learning letter sounds and hanging around other kids they pick up on a lot.
I guess things really do vary state to state. In CA all districts must place a 3 year old with a speech delay in a preschool program. They start educational testing at 2 years 9 months and find them a placement for their 3rd birthday. That being said, early intervention is extremely important. If you were to delay for a year, will she at least have medically based speech every week to continue working on those skills? I think with covid, if I could at least have speech set up I might consider skipping the year but making sure next year she’s properly tested and placed
Sounds like us here in Ohio. We have been with early intervention and she just finished her last in Hope speech session in April right before she turned 3. They will be the ones to work with us to make sure she gets speech therapy in school as well. Headstart would be the perfect option. They are a state funded program I think. They seem to be better equipped to deal with what she needs as far as her speech. Because they see so much of it. It’s not just the therapists but the teachers know too.
Isn't she too young for preschool? I don't know when you planned on starting, but I just always thought pre school was for age 4 😅 with all that is happening with covid, I would wait until next year to enroll her (ignore this if you weren't planning to enroll this upcoming school year)
I am keeping my daughter out this year. Its not worth it to me
Preschool, though helpful in the first years of school, is not required so it should not affect her going into Kindergarten. Can you afford to get her therapy done for her out of pocket rather than depending on school? If so that will help open up more options for you. Studies find that children who have early education tend to do better in the first three years of school but that the ones who don't catch up and often surpass them by 3rd grade. I would consider the pros and cons and personally I am making the choice not to send my 4 year old DD to preschool under the current circumstances. I am however, going mg to start an at home learning program with her and include her 2 year old sister. Learning comes on so many forms. I'm sure you will.come up with a good solution. The very best of wishes to you!! At the end if your family is kept safe I think that's all that matters.
@thatregalmujer Please explain what you mean by one or two hour interaction. Thanks.
@xryztalroze I'm just using the numbers you gave in your last comment "an hour or two daily spent..."
@thatregalmujer Are you asking about if I think 1-2 hours of instructional time are enough or if I think that 1-2 hours total with the children out of the day?
Your question is very vague so I will answer what I think you are asking. Please clarify for me if I'm wrong.
Most small children cannot sit and take instruction on one subject for more than 15 minutes, so a good early education program will plan the learning activities in 15-20 minute increments. A child can only learn as much as his butt can take and small children are full of energy so learning through physical activity is just as important as stationary learning. One on one teaching allows less time towards instruction and more time towards practice than traditional school where we have children of all learning curves and 1 to 25-30 ratio. It take longer to instruct and teach when you have more students at once because there are more distractions and not everyone learns at the same rate. So if your child is a slow learner you can slow down for him, on the other hand, if your child is a quick learner who is inquisitive, you can be more detailed and get into things quicker. Once a child passes a certain point of reading comprehension he/she doesn't need as much instruction so yes, 1-2 hours can be enough. The average homeschool day is estimated at 3-4 hours bc of instructional time, plus actual work time. I don't like the idea of daycare/early childhood education being an all day event for small children.
Now, what I was stating originally when I mentioned the quality time I was referring more towards family time and effort put in. I know people who stay at home all day 24/7 with their children but they do not interact beyond physical needs. They don't teach and they have poor parenting skills altogether. The children really just take care of themselves and run wild in the home. The parent is there but not truly present. So the kids pay the consequence. On the other hand I know people who work all day long from home, staying busy through the day, and the kids have to entertain themselves through the majority of the day but mom and dad are truly present and give structured activities for the children to do. They take breaks from work to help them and when family time takes place in the evening the parents are completely devoted to the time spent and the children are well adjusted and well behaved. I also know people who have sent their kids to daycare/school and worked full time to have them fall behind bc they don't have the family time. And from another angle others who worked full time to come home to spend quality time with their children who excelled. I am not against early childhood education but I don't think it is necessary in all cases. I've met too many people who rely on the state to educate their children and don't take responsibility for them. My personal thought is that if family is so important and I am working so hard to raise my children and to bind with them, why would I just sent them off at 5 for someone else to influence them? Education come sin many forms and looks different to all of us. But when it comes down to it the proof is in the pudding when we see that children who have strong family ties are less likely to get into gangs, or other troubles. They are also more likely to be successful academically and in life. Hope this answers for you. 🙂
My son did preschool at a church last year when he was 3, and there was a little boy in his class that had speech therapy. Not sure how they worked it out, but the speech therapist came to the preschool and worked with him twice a week.
It depends on how old she is. My daughter is about to be 4 (aug 10th) and she starting this year. With her needing speech therapy school may help. We are doing the k4 program that's at her daycare and it's very been great with sanitation and everything
Would she still get her speech services without being enrolled in preschool? With her only being 3, preschool isn’t a must but obviously would benefit her with her needs. If she can still get services then I would hold off on the preschool.
By the way, she’s at the top of the waitlist because she has a need (speech) not because of the money. The money the school will receive is far less than the cost of having her at school and providing services.
@ekko, sorry I only said that because that’s literally what I was told by people from the state. When i said what happens if no spots are open they said don’t worry. She has an IEP and that automatically moves her up over a child who doesn’t. They all want that grant money. This was never my assumption. I had no clue how all this worked and still frankly it’s all new to me.
@tiera_shaye, No need to apologize! I don’t know why they would say it like that. The school district has a federal obligation to provide services, so it’s not about the money and more about compliance and making sure her needs are met. Good luck with everything!
My oldest never attended preschool so I don’t think it will be a big deal to wait until next year. My youngest will not be attending it any either. I’m not even sending my oldest to kinder this year ,in person, bc of covid. We’re doing everything online/at home.
We didn't do preschool. Personally, with covid I wouldn't, it's going to be a mess this year.
Would she still get her speech services without being enrolled in preschool? With her only being 3, preschool isn’t a must but obviously would benefit her with her needs. If she can still get services then I would hold off on the preschool.
By the way, she’s at the top of the waitlist because she has a need (speech) not because of the money. The money the school will receive is far less than the cost of having her at school and providing services.