Need some advice ladies. My sister lives in michigan. She has a warrent out for her arrest due to skipping court and violations. The cops came by July 2nd, they were planning on taking her in that day. But the one cop told her no you have until Saturday to surrender or we come and get you. She decided to not surrender Saturday, she is hiding out at her friends or whever. She thinks she will only get a year for this from what I looked up she could go away for 2-3 Years she laughed at me today when I said that we got into a huge fight and I kicked her out of my parents house. Been a huge mess. Does anyone have experience with an addict who doesn't care at all? Anyone know how long she could get or when the cops will show up again asking where she is? I'm mentally drained and sad.
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Yes my mom did call and right now only felony warrants are being picked up because of covid hers is a misdemeanor. But I have a feeling if she skips her next court date on Monday they will end up issuing a felony warrant. They're dumb if they don't. Luckily she is out living with friends now so things are finally becoming more peaceful around here. Hoping she gets help before it's to late.
I would honestly call the cops if she comes over. It’s whats best for her. She really needs the time away from temptation to get clean. I am an ER nurse and I’ve seen so many ODs I can’t even count them. For some people it’s either jail or dead unfortunately and having her in jail for a year or two in the long run isn’t so bad if she gets clean. I know it sounds harsh but you don’t want her dead somewhere or living in a crack house. I would seriously just cal the cops and tell them that she’s at your house and that she has warrants and was supposed to surrender and she didn’t. It will be hard at first but it will be worth it if she has the rest of her life with you guys clean and sober. I hate seeing the families when we tell them that their family member ODed and is currently on life support. It’s so hard.
Yeah. My mom did call and begged them to go get her and they can't because her warrent is a Misdemeanor warrant right now and because the covid they're only picking up Felony warrants. They felt terrible because my mom was sobbing. My sister pretty much moved out, and is living with friends. She has another court date July 27th at 9am she missed the last one and she knows about this one. Say's she doesn't care about it though. So I'm hoping if she misses this one then they will issue a felony warrant out for her. I don't know how many more chances they can give someone. Anytime the cops come around I panic because I am just waiting and fully prepared for a your sister OD. It's scary. I want so much more for her but right now living the lifestyle is more important to her. Luckily she is living it elsewhere, and no longer in front of my daughter. Eventually things will catch up to her. She will not be able to skate by forever I just hope it's jail time and not death in the long run.
I do but not when it comes to an addiction and cops and all that. You are strong for kicking her out good for you. Additionally ts dont care 2 shits. It's a waste of time.i wasted 4 years on an addict. Trying to help him when he could careless.its a never ending battle until they want to truly help themselves
Yes it has been a year and a half now when we discovered her use of meth and cocaine. It's a nasty drug. And when I was yelling at her. I was reminding myself I'm yelling at whatever drug she has in her system at the time. Because I know deep down that nasty attitude and the hate she has for my parents who bend over backwards for anyone and the hate she has towards the whole family right now isn't real. It's the drug. So I basically said goodbye to the drug that has consumed my sister for awhile now. I hurt for her. She hasn't been right since 2018 is the last time I remember seeing her as her and not on something. I pray to get back to that one day. But for now she needs to get clean and that won't happen until she gets caught by the cops. I know when she skipped court they didn't drop by until a week later so by this Saturday they should stop by then. Maybe they're waiting until her next hearing which would have been today I believe so idk what will happen.. it will all work out thank you for the kind words I appreciate it alot.
@onthegomomma oh man.sorry you are going through this
@anicole3285 I appreciate that. One day she will get help and if not one day the drug will take her. It took me a long time to accept that. I always pray it is help that she decides but idk anymore. ❤
Sadly, I agree. Drug addiction is a "living death sentence". Without help she is already "dead" and it will take a lot of love, patience, and strength from loved ones to get her through this. Prayer is needed and I hope she will "live again" with time. Until she gets sober she won't care about anything, as pp said, except getting her next fix. I'm so sorry!!!
@thatregalmujer Sadly everything you state is true. The truth is sad and hurtful. I feel for this family.
@onthegomomma I'm so sorry. I feel for your family. Many hugs and prayers sent your way!!! Give your mom and dad a big hug for me. I've seen too many people go that route and unfortunately most never break free from the shackles of addiction. I hope she will be an exception to the rule.
@xryztalroze Thank you. I appreciate this. We will be ok. It's hard at times, but one day she will want the help at least we pray she will. Right now she does not. And in her drug state mind we are all the problem, not her. And until she sees that she is the one with the problem there is nothing more we can do, but try and be there for her when she allows us to be.
Addicts don't care about anything except getting high. That's just the reality of it, and many of them have an incredibly hard time getting clean on their own, even if they want to. I imagine the cops will show up anytime after Sunday, if they show up at all.
I'm extremely shocked they didn't take her in when that was the only reason they showed up, plus they had an arrest warrant 🤯 hopefully she gets at least a year, she'll get clean in prison, can only hope she'll stay clean. Maybe she won't even get any time
I know she is gonna get some time she was supposed to have fines paid off by now, she has 4 violations against her for probation. She is smoking weed and is under 21 it's legal in Michigan for 21 and up, she does meth. She has very erratic behavior lately only cares about her self and her needs and wants. She got into it with me in front of my almost 4 year old. It was so bad I told her she was dead to me and then I pointed to my daughter and said this right here is no longer your niece. And that really didn't faze her at all. She said she didn't care. Called me a ton of names and even though it isn't my house I told her to get out and no one wanted her here. Luckily my parents are coming back up today because I can't deal with it anymore. She told us she is coming back today to clean out her room and apparently move out and if we have a problem with it we can call the cops. So she truly doesn't give a crap. 2 years in prison would do her good 30 days in county last year did nothing for her. Im sad for her and I'm so heartbroken for my daughter. She loves her auntie but her auntie doesn't give her the time of day. The high on whatever she is on is what is important to her right now. I washed my hands with her last night until she decides to fully get clean and realize maybe one day all of the wrong and hurt she has caused the family. But right now she can't think clearly and I cant have ava around that.
@onthegomomma if she really returns, call the cops, since she has a warrant and is hiding
Call the cops when she gets there. She needs help. It sounds to me, being in prison will be the BEST option for her. She deserves a long fulfilled life, being a drug addict is not that life.