If a man isn’t sure that a baby is his should he still participate in the birth? Because I feel like if you wanted someone there with you then you shouldn’t have been irresponsible and slept around. The girl that is possibly pregnant by my sons dad is upset with me because she thinks I told him not to be involved in her babys delivery. I talked to him about it and he said his mom suggested that he doesn’t need to be involved until the test comes back. Honestly though I don’t think she has a right to be upset with anyone... there’s three possible fathers can’t blame either of the men for not wanting any involvement.
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O well not your problem he wouldn’t have any association with me any more after that ...😂💯 bye honey you made your bed go lay in it ...I’m suprised you would even want to look at him again fuck that jerry springer shit I’d get rid of his ass ASAP
He’s my sons father so it’s not like I can cut him off and never speak to him again. Also I’ve already explained the situation in the comments. Read that before assuming. It’s not my problem but if I’m being inserted in it I’m gonna have my opinion.
If I were the dude, I would go to the birth if the mother asked me to if I was unsure if it would be my child or not, because I wouldn't want to miss my child being born. However, I'm just guessing what I would do. His mom shouldn't be saying he shouldn't go because she put herself in the situation. If he wasn't having sex with her, his name wouldn't have gotten called, so since he put himself in that situation, I feel like the responsible thing to do would be to show up to the birth if invited. At least, he'd know that he may not be the father, instead of going in believing he is, only to be let down.
but, side note, they can get a test done before the baby is born to cut through all this mess.
That's a sticky situation. Honestly I'd stay away till I knew it was mine. It would suck to miss the birth of your own child but you might get attached. Then your hearts broke when you find out its not yours. That girl needs to find out soon as possible though who it is. It's not fair to these men or that baby. Then you would know if your son has a sibling or not. Can't believe someone could sleep with that many men around the same time. If I was that girl Id want to be alone or with a family member during that time. Poor guy going to the apts might already be a little attached.
I think it’s hard to say what you’d do when you’re not really in the situation. That’s tough. But I think I would want to feel comfortable the day I’m giving birth and not have any of them there. I would just want the support of my family without the drama and embarrassment. Once she knows who the father is, they can visit then.
Sounds like something out of a movie. Did he sleep around on you with her ? How she get your number ? So many questions. Hopefully it all works out.
I guess he had been cheating with her months prior to me getting pregnant and the majority of my pregnancy. We all went to school together so I had her on Snapchat when she sent me pictures of them having sex. I don’t have her on social media anymore but my friends do and they send me screenshots of the posts she makes about me and my son. I mean if our sons wind up being siblings I would like to work things out so that we are cordial since we’ll both be around. But I’m not making any moves to do that until I know for sure her child is my sons brother
@ajaecymone184, wow ! A video ? Omg I wouldn’t be able to handle that. That’s definitely great that if it is his son you are willing to work things out with her and let the kids be siblings to each other. A lot of women would be bitter and angry and not the kid see the dad or the kid or want to be apart of it. I don’t blame him for not going because that has to be uncomfortable and I wouldn’t want to get attached and the baby not be mine. It’s not his fault she should know who the baby dad is and shouldn’t have 3 men on stand by. But how are you in all of this ? I am sure this isn’t for you to be apart of. I don’t think I would be holding up good.
@luv_2b_amomma, Yeah and we lived together when all of this went down. I think she wants me to be bitter so bad and she wants me to have a issue with her and I don’t. He wants us to get back together so I think that’s why she blames me for him not wanting to be involved but that has nothing to do with me. I never told him not to be involved and I said the same. It could actually be 7 possibilities but she has narrowed the list down to 3 so who really knows at this point. I do still love him and I slipped up a few weeks ago by hooking up with him but I’m honestly done. I need time to heal and get past things.. I probably would be able to forgive him if it was a brief hookup but he had a whole secret friends with benefits type of thing going on for months behind my back. Or maybe even a year I honestly don’t know though because he still lies to me about it. When I found out she was pregnant I was under the impression that she was just a few weeks but come to find out she was already months along and he was still sleeping with her.... and Co-parenting was rocky at first but things are okay now.
If you talk to her (the pregnant woman) tell her to sit down and attempt to map the dates she was with said individuals. If he's more than likely to be the father you could possibly discuss it as the mother of his child to see some viewpoint.
I feel the way she has sorted out certain things she's leaning towards him and the man who's going to appointments (if he's going to them).
I personally wouldn't even involve anyone in anything if I ended up in such situation.
Well we aren’t friends really since she’s the one who sent me screenshots of them sleeping together when I was pregnant. I think she did map the dates because before there were more guys like 4 more so she narrowed it down to the 3 who I guess she feels is the closes.
Idk. As a woman I feel like you just have instincts when it comes to who the father of your child is. I feel like she asked for this reason...but then again I've never been in this predicament lol. I agree with what others have said. Why take that chance and miss out on the birth of your child. This all just seems super messy too. I would not want to be involved lol
Yeah and I’m always in the middle which I don’t understand she involves me in everything. It’s definitely messy though lol
It could also lead to a lot of resentment if he does go. With the unknown there will be hurt feelings either way. Are the other two possible fathers invited?
@ajaecymone184, sounds super messy and someone is bound to get attached and end up heart broken
@ajaecymone184, this is a huge mess. Someone is going to end up heartbroken.
@monstermommax3, I agree 100% I do know the guy who has been going to the appointments and he’s a good person. Very respectful, nice I am sure he will be the one most affected. He seems very excited.
He doesn’t have to participate that would solely be a choice of his . I had a male friend in a similar situation and he went to the delivery because he said if it turned out to be his and he missed that experience he would never forgive himself . But then there is always the fact you be there and you get a attached and it’s not yours it’s a tough situation to be in . In my friend situation it was two possibilities and he actually end up being the dad in the end so he was happy he got to see his daughter be born even though at the time he wasn’t sure it was his daughter . All depends on the person . No one has to put themselves through that uncertainty of a heartbreak if they kid ends up not being theirs.. but it’s always that regret if it does end up being his
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He doesn’t have to participate that would solely be a choice of his . I had a male friend in a similar situation and he went to the delivery because he said if it turned out to be his and he missed that experience he would never forgive himself . But then there is always the fact you be there and you get a attached and it’s not yours it’s a tough situation to be in . In my friend situation it was two possibilities and he actually end up being the dad in the end so he was happy he got to see his daughter be born even though at the time he wasn’t sure it was his daughter . All depends on the person . No one has to put themselves through that uncertainty of a heartbreak if they kid ends up not being theirs.. but it’s always that regret if it does end up being his