If a man isn’t sure that a baby is his should he still participate in the birth? Because I feel like…

He doesn’t have to participate that would solely be a choice of his . I had a male friend in a similar situation and he went to the delivery because he said if it turned out to be his and he missed that experience he would never forgive himself . But then there is always the fact you be there and you get a attached and it’s not yours it’s a tough situation to be in . In my friend situation it was two possibilities and he actually end up being the dad in the end so he was happy he got to see his daughter be born even though at the time he wasn’t sure it was his daughter . All depends on the person . No one has to put themselves through that uncertainty of a heartbreak if they kid ends up not being theirs.. but it’s always that regret if it does end up being his

It could also lead to a lot of resentment if he does go. With the unknown there will be hurt feelings either way. Are the other two possible fathers invited?

Idk. As a woman I feel like you just have instincts when it comes to who the father of your child is. I feel like she asked for this reason...but then again I've never been in this predicament lol. I agree with what others have said. Why take that chance and miss out on the birth of your child. This all just seems super messy too. I would not want to be involved lol

If you talk to her (the pregnant woman) tell her to sit down and attempt to map the dates she was with said individuals. If he's more than likely to be the father you could possibly discuss it as the mother of his child to see some viewpoint.

I feel the way she has sorted out certain things she's leaning towards him and the man who's going to appointments (if he's going to them).

I personally wouldn't even involve anyone in anything if I ended up in such situation.

Sounds like something out of a movie. Did he sleep around on you with her ? How she get your number ? So many questions. Hopefully it all works out.

I think it’s hard to say what you’d do when you’re not really in the situation. That’s tough. But I think I would want to feel comfortable the day I’m giving birth and not have any of them there. I would just want the support of my family without the drama and embarrassment. Once she knows who the father is, they can visit then.

That's a sticky situation. Honestly I'd stay away till I knew it was mine. It would suck to miss the birth of your own child but you might get attached. Then your hearts broke when you find out its not yours. That girl needs to find out soon as possible though who it is. It's not fair to these men or that baby. Then you would know if your son has a sibling or not. Can't believe someone could sleep with that many men around the same time. If I was that girl Id want to be alone or with a family member during that time. Poor guy going to the apts might already be a little attached.

If I were the dude, I would go to the birth if the mother asked me to if I was unsure if it would be my child or not, because I wouldn't want to miss my child being born. However, I'm just guessing what I would do. His mom shouldn't be saying he shouldn't go because she put herself in the situation. If he wasn't having sex with her, his name wouldn't have gotten called, so since he put himself in that situation, I feel like the responsible thing to do would be to show up to the birth if invited. At least, he'd know that he may not be the father, instead of going in believing he is, only to be let down.

but, side note, they can get a test done before the baby is born to cut through all this mess.

O well not your problem he wouldn’t have any association with me any more after that ...😂💯 bye honey you made your bed go lay in it ...I’m suprised you would even want to look at him again fuck that jerry springer shit I’d get rid of his ass ASAP